Eyes up and to the left which means. We read thoughts in the eyes

With rare exceptions, each of us feels the need for communication, that's how a person is.

People share information with each other, jointly develop new ideas, get to know each other and start relationships, get charged with positive and become infected with negative emotions - all this happens through communication.

Due to the exceptional importance of this process in all spheres of life, we are often very offended when they lie to us, but we do not notice it. Probably, learning to recognize lies, so that for sure and always - the blue dream of mankind. Unfortunately, this is hardly possible, if only because often a person cannot distinguish even his own inventions from reality.

However, in order to suspect something was wrong and keep your eyes open, even special devices are not required - it is enough during a conversation to pay attention to some indirect signs that unwittingly appear in your interlocutor, which can confirm or deny his words.

Lies are usually inconvenient for the person who comes up with them. He feels discomfort, nervousness, fear that he may be exposed, even when it comes to something completely harmless. And when it comes to something serious that can affect a person's future life, if the truth is revealed, then only a person with good self-control can behave correctly at such moments. But even in this case, if you know what to look for, you can find vivid signs indicating a person's nervousness, as well as in which places in his stories and answers it manifests itself most sharply. Let's take a look at these signs.

Speech

In our communication, words directly account for 20-40% of the transmitted information, that is, less than half. Everything else is non-verbal (that is, non-verbal) information. The methods of its transmission are studied by such a branch of linguistics as paralinguistics.

Pauses is the most common sign of deception. They can be either too long or frequent. The presence of interjections - "um", "well", "uh" - also indicates that you, perhaps, are being told a lie or something is not being told.

Raising tone is a likely sign. The speech becomes louder and faster, the person experiences excitement. The reasons can be different - anger, delight, fear. But there may be a lie.

Useless facts... To make the story compelling, people try to saturate their fictional story with real events that are far from the subject of the conversation. For example, if you want to find out in detail about the people with whom your interlocutor met, what, for example, he needs to hide, then you will hear expanded micro-stories about what wonderful food was, great weather, what emotions were caused by certain everyday events, and about people can only be said in passing. In a word, they will clearly draw a vast background for you, and in the center of the picture they will only sketch a blurry sketch.

Guess the answer... It is necessary to ensure that the person answers directly, while it is not necessary to correct him and thereby put pressure on him. Remember that the question asked to the question is only an indirect answer.
If you asked, "Have you watched TV today?" And someone objected to you, "Well, you know I couldn't do that?" - then you need to understand that this is a departure from a direct answer. However, it should be noted that people can only answer like this because they are offended by their mistrust and do not consider it necessary to answer directly.
Another option is an indirect answer, when you are also asked to think out what was said on your own, but do not speak directly, for example, to the question "Are you sure you can fix this?" may be followed by the phrase "Friends consider me an excellent master!". From it we can conclude that a person is not confident in his abilities, but he does not want to admit it either.

As you asked, so you were answered. Frequent and accurate use of phrases from your question, as well as the complete repetition of the question before the person starts to answer, may indicate insincerity. In such situations, your interlocutor does not have time to think of what to answer, so he uses your own words or takes time before answering in order to have time to construct a plausible version.

A joke instead of an answer... Pay attention to the "funny" answers. You asked, you were cleverly answered, you appreciated, laughed and moved on to another question, or did not bother this funny interlocutor at all - a common situation. But you need to think about it, if a person often laughs it off, instead of directly answering, perhaps he does it on purpose.

Speech at different speeds... Frequent coughing, trying to clear the throat, or sudden changes in speech from normal to faster or slower may mean that the person is nervous, or may be lying. This is also indicated by any objectively unconditioned change in the voice, tone of the speaker.

If, in the course of the story, a person goes back in the course of the story and supplements it with something: clarifies, says that he forgot to mention something, adds details, then this indicates a sincere story. It is difficult to remember a story made up on the go, add it in the middle, and then continue to think it out from the end - there is a high probability of getting lost and confused

Body

First of all, you should pay attention to the pose of the interlocutor.

Well-known "closed poses" - crossed arms and legs. They say at least that the interlocutor is not very inclined to communicate with you. A person may look relaxed, but attempts to hide their hands, fold them over their chest or lock them on their knees give them away. It is not a fact that he is lying to you - but he clearly wants to hide something from you, not to let it slip.

It happens that a liar cringes as if he wants to take up as little space as possible.

Another posture: if a person takes a step back during a conversation, most likely he himself does not believe in what he is telling you.

There are “slips of the tongue,” a kind of non-verbal information leak. Not every liar allows them, but if they happen, it's a sure sign of his intentions.

If a person touches his face with his hands: scratches his nose, covers his mouth, then these are signs that he subconsciously closes himself off from you, to put a barrier between you.

The most common gestures of deception are:

	Involuntary shrug speaks of indifference, that a person does not care. And if he pulls with one shoulder, it means that he is lying with a very high degree of probability.
	Rubbing eyes. When a child does not want to look at something, he closes his eyes with his palms. An adult has this gesture t transformed into rubbing of the eye. Thus, the brain tries to block something unpleasant for us (deception, doubt, or an unpleasant sight). In men, this is a more pronounced gesture - they rub their eyes, as if a speck had hit them. In women, this gesture is less noticeable and may well pass for correcting makeup, since ladies usually rub their lower eyelids gently with their fingers. But here, too, you should be careful - suddenly a speck has really hit or an eyelash!
	NS rush to the nose (often with a quick, elusive movement) is also a sign of lies. This gesture is called the "Pinocchio symptom" Remember the story about Pinocchio, where his nose began to grow rapidly when he lied? In fact, physically, this process really takes place - in the body, special substances catelohamines are secreted, which lead to irritation of the nasal mucosa, pressure also increases, blood flow increases and the nose really increases slightly. But this is not noticeable, but it is noticeable how your interlocutor begins to reach for his nose and scratch it.
	Covering your mouth with your hand or coughing into a fist, according to psychologists, shows a desire to suppress the uttering of one's own false words, to prevent them from breaking out.
	Brushing imaginary fluff off clothes... The interlocutor does not approve of what he has heard. He does not want (or cannot) say it out loud, but the gesture betrays his thoughts.
	Collar pull-back. A familiar gesture, right? As if it becomes stuffy and it is hard for a person to breathe. Cheating leads to increased blood pressure and increased sweating, especially if the cheater is afraid of being caught in a lie.

Other gestures of deception include

Rubbing the earlobe.
Let's go back to our monkeys! This is a “I hear nothing” gesture. It is usually accompanied by a sideways glance. Variants of this gesture: rubbing the earlobe, scratching the neck behind the ear, picking (excuse me) in the ear, or twisting it into a tube.

Scratching the neck.
Typically, people do this with the index finger of the hand with which they write. On average, a person scratches their neck 5 times a day. This gesture means doubt. That is, if a person says something like “Yes, yes! I completely agree with you ”and at the same time reaches out to scratch his neck, which means that in fact he does not agree and doubts.

Fingers in the mouth.
The most striking character with a finger in his mouth is Doctor Evil from the film about Austin Powers. He almost always keeps his little finger near his mouth. This is a person's unconscious attempt to return to the state of security commonly associated with infancy and sucking on the same nipple. An adult sucks on a cigar, pipe, temples, pen, or chews gum. Most of the touching of the mouth is associated with deception, but it also suggests that the person needs approval. Maybe he's lying because he's afraid you won't like the truth.

Note a gesture such as extended middle finger... He can just lie on his knee, or a person accidentally touches his face with it. This is a gesture of hostility and hidden aggression: the interlocutor seems to send you to hell.

You should also notice if the interlocutor shifts from foot to foot or even takes a small step back. This indicates a desire to leave, to distance yourself from you, so as not to give away something.
It is especially important to pay attention to backward movements when asking questions. If the head of the respondent will be abruptly pulled back or down- this, perhaps, is also an attempt to close.

Emotions

The behavior of a person is strikingly different depending on whether he is telling the truth or lying.

If there is a lie, then a person's emotions will be much deeper and more sensual. Any lie implies the presence of a certain mask that a person puts on himself and builds an appropriate line of his behavior. Often times, "mask" and other emotions are mixed with each other. For example, a light smile is a mask of pleasure, if this feeling is not actually experienced, mixed with signs of fear, sadness, disgust or anger. In the case of sincere joy, our eyes will see not only a smile, but also the movement of the muscles located around the eyes.

Bad reaction... Watch the other person's emotions as you talk. If a person is hiding something from you, then emotions can be expressed with a delay, remain unusually long on the person's face, and then suddenly disappear, appear before you finish the phrase.
This happens because a person is tensely thinking about something of his own, poorly supporting the thread of the conversation and demonstrating emotions that he does not actually feel.

Facial expressions lasting 5-10 seconds are usually fake. Most sincere emotions appear on the face for only a few seconds. Otherwise, they will look like a mockery. For example, a surprise that does not pass in a person for more than 5 seconds is a fake emotion.
In a sincere person, words, gestures and facial expressions are synchronized. If someone shouts: “How tired of you!” And an angry expression appears only after the reply, the anger is most likely fake.

American psychologist Paul Ekman studied facial expressions and counted a total of 46 independent facial movements. However, he found that in combination with each other, they can convey about 7000 unique emotions! Interestingly, many of the muscles that set the face in motion are not controlled by consciousness. This means that a fake smile will always differ slightly from the real one.

Behavior in case of provocations

Rapid breathing, heaving of the chest, frequent swallowing, perspiration protruding are signs of intense anxiety. It is possible that they are lying to you. Blush is a sign of embarrassment, but you can also be embarrassed out of shame for lying.

Do you like field hockey? When you try to change the subject abruptly, a person telling a lie will take it with relief, support your initiative, because he understands that the less you talk to him, the less chance he will have to “pierce” and betray himself. If the interlocutor is sincere, then his natural reaction will be a lack of understanding of the reason for the change in topic, dissatisfaction that his story was not heard. He will try to get back to the topic of the conversation.

I don't like you guys ... If you have doubts about the veracity of the interlocutor's words, MirSovetov advises to implicitly show that you do not believe the interlocutor's story: after his answer to the next question, pause, look closely, with disbelief. If they are not honest with you, it will cause embarrassment, uncertainty. If a person is telling the truth, then often he begins to get irritated, to stare at you. In it, the following changes can be noted: embarrassment disappears, lips are compressed, eyebrows frown.

Eye movements

It is rightly said that the eyes are the mirror of the soul. A person is designed in such a way that the eyes are actively involved in the process of thinking.

They assume a position depending on which area of the brain is currently involved. Knowing this, we can assume what the brain is doing at one point or another in the dialogue: inventing something new or processing real information.

If a person confidently wants to defend his lie and deliberately lies, he tries to maintain eye contact. He looks deeply into the eyes. This is to know if you believe his lies.

And when a person is caught off guard and wants to lie so that everyone will forget about it, he immediately switches your attention: he goes to another room supposedly on business or starts tying his shoes, sorting through papers and mutters something under his breath ...

However, sometimes a person looks into the eyes in the hope of seeing support. He may not lie, but be very unsure of his righteousness.

Watch your blinking. When they lie, they often blink involuntarily, because for many, a lie is all the same. But, in addition, increased blinking may mean that the subject of the conversation is unpleasant to him, it is painful. And the less often a person blinks, the happier he is at that moment.

When asking a question, pay attention to the movement of the eyes at the moment when the person answers. When a person really tries to remember all the details and tell you, he looks to the right. When a person comes up with something, his gaze moves to the left.

Usually when a person is something remembers (comes up with) he looks not just to the side, but down (right down, left down)

See the neurolinguist chart for what eye movements indicate.

Let's imagine that the picture is the face of your interlocutor. Further, in order to avoid confusion, we will agree to write about you when you look at the "interlocutor's face", and in parentheses there will be instructions regarding the person depicted in the diagram

You see that the eyes of the interlocutor

Watching left and up from you(the person looks to the upper right corner), this indicates the construction of the picture.
To the right and up from you(for him, this is the upper left corner) - an appeal to visual memory.
Watching to the left(for the interlocutor, the right side) - comes up with a sound,
to the right(for him the left side) - tries to remember what he heard.
Eyes bottom and left(lower right corner) - test of sensations and feelings.
Bottom and right(lower left corner) - reflects on the situation, talks to himself.
If the look straight, then the person perceives the information.

For example, if you asked your boss about the salary date, and, while answering, he looked down and to the right relative to you, then he thought about it for the first time and forms an answer “on the fly”, reflects. And if just to the right, it means that he says what he heard earlier from the higher authorities.

Pay attention to this nuance: if you are speaking to a left-handed person, then the left and right sides are opposite to each other. This is also true for right-handers, in whom the left hemisphere, however, predominates over the right, for example, the so-called. retrained left-handers.

There is an opinion that a direct eye-to-eye look symbolizes the sincerity of a person, but if the eyes are averted, then they say that someone "hides" his eyes and hides something. In reality, this is not the case. During a conversation, it is often necessary to break eye contact in order to focus on some thought, think, remember.
Based on materials from bskltd.ru, mirsovetov.ru

Interesting fact:

Scientists at the State University of New York at Buffalo have developed a high-tech polygraph. Based on eye movements, it recognizes when a person is telling the truth and when a lie. According to the researchers, their system is capable of detecting a false statement with an accuracy of more than 80%.

The new system has been tested on volunteers. Before the experiment began, they were asked to guess if they had stolen a check that was written in the name of a political party they do not support. An interrogator sat next to the subjects, who first asked questions not related to the topic, and then directly asked about "theft."

At this time, the program, using webcams, monitored the violation of the trajectory of eye movement, the speed of blinking and the frequency with which the participants in the experiment shifted their gaze. As a result, the system was able to successfully identify lies in 82.2% of cases, while for experienced investigators this ratio was about 60%.

How to recognize lies by facial expressions and gestures:

It should be noted that as in nature there are no two identical personalities, each person is individual in its own way, so there is no universal set of signals that reveal a lie. Therefore, all signs must be carefully analyzed in the context of the current situation, and, pay attention to both the voice and emotions, and not forget about body movements. The tongue can lie, but the body cannot lie.

However, be careful and do not jump to conclusions, no matter how perceptive people you are, because even Sherlock Holmes once suspected the girl of a terrible crime, mistaking her awkward gesture for trying to hide the truth. Later it turned out that the girl was just ashamed of her not powdered nose: o).

And what do you think,

What does gaze mean, direction of gaze, dilated and constricted pupils. Casual glance, gaze and direction. A glance from under the brow, to the left, to the right, up, down, frequent blinking and a sidelong glance. The look and the direction of the gaze can tell a lot about the thoughts, feelings and experiences of a person.

Let's start with the pupils. (Look into my eyes and you will see the truth)

Pupils dilate or contract under certain lighting conditions. It all depends on the mood and brightness of the lighting. If a person is emotionally excited, then his pupils become slightly more dilated than under the same lighting, in a calm state. The same thing happens when a person looks at something that he likes. It’s not just that they say “eyes lit up”. A person with dilated pupils looks the most attractive and mesmerizing. But if the pupils narrow, then aggression, anger and irritation grow in a person.

Raised eyebrows (sign, gesture - Hey, hello!)

Eyebrows rise when we notice a pleasant person next to us and we want him to notice us too. This is nothing more than an expression of interest. People who remain stony-faced and do not raise their eyebrows when greeting are regarded as aggressive, sympathy for them is much less. Be aware that if you raised your eyebrows, the person will most likely repeat your gesture and may even smile in return.

Highly raised eyebrows (Gesture, sign - Hug me or obey)

Women with raised eyebrows and big eyes are considered submissive, therefore they are very popular with men. You want to hug and protect them. In men, everything is different, the lower the eyebrows, the narrower the eyes. So men want to show their authority and seriousness. Recently, however, women have also begun to use this look. And if the eyebrows are thick, bushy, then they are more aggressive than domineering and capable of subjugating them.

Sullen glance. (Gesture, sign - I'm playing with you)

If a woman's head is slightly tilted and she looks sullenly, then this is a signal of submission that men like so much. It gives its owners "childish naivety and purity of soul." Such a look awakens truly parental feelings. And if all this is complemented by a smile, then the effect is simply stunning. In a dispute, the interlocutor is likely to take the side of the person who looks sullenly and submissively.

A sidelong look can be viewed from two sides. If it is complemented by a flirtatious smile and sparkle in the eyes, then you are interesting to the interlocutor. Such a "languid" look is used by women when flirting. But if, in addition to the look on the face, there is a smile with lowered corners of the lips and frowning eyebrows, then the interlocutor is most likely hostile and it is better to hide from his field of vision.

Frequent blinking (Gesture, sign - Eye tic)

Typically, a person blinks about eight (8) times per minute. Has your interlocutor started blinking harder? No, he does not fall asleep and does not straighten contact lenses (if the latter, then relax) Just in this way, often blinking, his brain wants to "throw out" your image from the subconscious. When a person starts blinking stubbornly, closing his eyes for 2-3 seconds, you should know that he is simply tired of communicating with you and cannot tell you to your face because of embarrassment or for another reason. In this case, it is better and easier to find another interlocutor and continue communication with him.

Moving eyes, eyes (Gesture, sign, look - Where is the exit ...)

Have you noticed that the eyes of your interlocutor began to run from side to side? Not no! He doesn't do eye gymnastics! He is looking for a way to escape (or looking for a target if he is a special intelligence agent). You tired him with your conversations, or they are not interesting to him. Perhaps he will even try to smile with pursed lips in response, imitating interest, but you know, most likely when you turn away, he will run away.

Social look (Look, gesture, sign - Just talking through the eyes)

During normal communication, the eyes of the interlocutor "draw" a triangular area affecting the eyes and nose. In this area, we focus on a simple, safe situation for us. This view is not considered aggressive or hostile. This is how communication occurs between people of equal status and age. At ease and easy.

Intimate gaze (Intimate "conversation" with the eyes)

Thanks to improved peripheral vision, women can look at a man discreetly, looking down wherever they go. But men do not know how, they intently examine the object of their adoration. An intimate look "draws" a triangle between the eyes and its apex is formed on the chest, and if people are at a distance, it goes from the eyes down to the groin area. The look is not hostile, it means that the person most likely wants something more from communicating with you.

Dominant look (domineering eye talk)

The imperious gaze is concentrated in a triangle between the eyes of a person and "his mythological third eye" above the eyes along the line of the nose. Typically, this view is used by authoritative, confident people. He carries in himself the power and desire to suppress the interlocutor. People who are soft in nature are advised to sometimes use such a look in order to seem more serious, complementing it with drooping eyebrows and narrowed eyes. It is with this look that the interlocutor can interrupt a tedious conversation.

Looks up - down, right - left.

Where are the eyes of the person sitting opposite? Eyes are the mirror of the soul! If the eyes are directed upwards to the left, then the person is most likely trying to remember a previously seen image or what he once did. And if down to the right, then the emotions and feelings with which this or that action was performed are recalled. If it is directed to the left towards the ear, then the person remembers the melody or the sound he heard, and if he mysteriously looks down to the left, then an internal dialogue is being conducted. Such views do not last long, and pass almost instantly, the main thing is to catch them.

Head straight, head up.

A raised head is characteristic of people who participate in a conversation. This position is neutral, does not carry aggression or, on the contrary, deep indifference. A raised head can be complemented by small nods during a conversation, or a person can rub their chin while reflecting on what is said or heard. In any case, you can be sure that the interlocutor is listening to you (unless he froze with an unblinking gaze, most likely he fell into a trance in this situation) and you should be more careful when talking to him.

Head tilt to the side. Look with a tilt of the head.

The head tilted to the side is a symbol of submission. At this moment, a person wants to show that he does not carry a threat, because he opens his throat. Also, tilting to the side indicates an interest in the conversation. Often, to appear more attractive, women bow their heads in the presence of a man. By often showing people your "defenseless" neck, you can win them over to you.

The head is lowered forward. (Signal of disapproval, gesture of aggression)

Bulls always push their horns forward when they are aggressive. A lowered head and a glance from under the brows with eyebrows brought together and dilated nostrils, signals to others about the negative and aggressive mood of a person, he is ready to tear to pieces anyone who will not be supportive of him or will not be nice to him. Therefore, it is better to wait. until the person straightens his head or at least tilts it on its side, otherwise any of your words can have the effect of a "red rag" and you can be "hoisted on the horns."

P.S. All of the above gestures, views and examples can only be used in context and are not an accurate indication of one or another decoding and understanding of the action. Remember, you should not judge by only one criterion and interpret actions in your direction. Be open-minded.

It has long been no secret that all people lie. They can cheat on little things or more important things. Those who do not want to become their victim should be prepared for this turn of events and learn to recognize lies. To do this, you need to have extensive experience in communicating with people and constantly train your own observation skills. Learning to understand people is quite difficult, but still possible. Most often, lies are determined by eyes, facial expressions and gestures.

The eyes are a mirror ...

When a person lies, it is his eyes that often give him away. Having a desire, you can learn to control gestures or facial expressions, or think over a story to the smallest detail, but you will hardly be able to control eye movements. During a lie, a person feels very insecure and uncomfortable, so he tries to look away. If the interlocutor does not look directly in the eyes, this can be considered as the first sign of deception.

But not everything is so simple. Almost everyone knows how to detect lies in the eyes, so they use the "by contradiction" method. If a person looks straight ahead with an unblinking gaze, perhaps he wants to justify himself. An overly honest look often testifies to the truthfulness of the interlocutor's words. One gets the impression that he wants to penetrate the thoughts of the opponent and understand whether he believes him. And if the liar is caught by surprise, most likely he will try to divert attention or go to another room.

It is almost impossible to control, so the person who is lying changes their gaze. The pupil becomes much smaller than usual.

Blood to the face ...

Detecting lies by the eyes is not the only way to recognize lies. When a person tells a lie, tiny wrinkles appear around his eyes. Sometimes you can even see them with the naked eye. If there are doubts about the sincerity of the opponent's words, it is worth closely observing his skin around his eyes.

Four sides of the world

Thinking about the eyes, you can observe the direction in which the interlocutor is looking. If his gaze is directed to the right, then he is deceiving. When people look up and straight, it means that at this moment they come up with a picture or image for themselves. To represent sounds or a phrase, the person will look to the right and straight ahead. When the script is ready, the deceiver will shift his gaze to the right and down. But these rules only apply when the person is right-handed. In a left-handed person, the position of the eyes when lying is the opposite.

If the gaze quickly moves from one object to another, then this is also a reason to think about how to determine a lie by the eyes.

Guilt

Knowing the basic secrets, you can easily determine whether a person is cheating or not. Many people during a lying story experience At this time, the eyes go down, and sometimes to the side. To identify lies, it is necessary to compare the movements of the eyeballs with the words spoken by the opponent.

"Fixed" eyes

Psychologists are sure that a frozen gaze is a sign that a person is telling a lie. To check this, it is enough to ask the interlocutor to remember some detail. If he continues to stare straight ahead and doesn't blink, chances are he can't be trusted. In the case when the opponent answers the question posed without hesitation and without changing the position of the eyes, one can suspect him of insincerity. When the number of blinks increases, this indicates that the person feels uncomfortable and wants to withdraw from the outside world.

But the definition of lies in the eyes in this way is not fair in the case when the events took place ten to fifteen minutes ago. Also, do not get hung up on a fixed gaze when a person provides information that is very important to him, for example, an address or phone number.

A sharp look away

When communicating with a person, you can sometimes notice how he quickly avert his eyes to the side during the story, and then again looks at the interlocutor. It is very likely that such his actions indicate that he is trying to hide something.

If the whole conversation the interlocutor looked directly and openly, and when touching on a certain topic began to look away or avoid direct contact, then this is one of the signs of how to recognize a lie by the eyes. But sometimes insecure and insecure people behave this way if the topic of the conversation makes them feel uncomfortable. In this case, it makes no sense to talk about deception on the basis of this feature alone.

Frightened facial expression

The person who cheats is always afraid of being exposed. Therefore, during a conversation, he may have a little scared.But only an experienced psychologist will be able to distinguish it from the usual embarrassment in front of a stranger or an unusual situation.

Eyes are not the only indicator of a lie. When analyzing the behavior of the interlocutor, it is worth evaluating the complete picture: pay attention to gestures, posture and facial expressions. Any information about a person will be useful in order to correctly match words and "picture". Therefore, it is not worth doing.

Mimicry while lying

Knowing the position of the eyes when lying is important, but not enough. It is necessary to observe the person's speech, his movements and behavior. During a false story, changes will certainly be noticeable. It is necessary to evaluate facial expressions and gestures only in conjunction with speech and voice parameters.

Intonation and smile

When the interlocutor is cheating, his speech and intonation will change. The voice may tremble, and the words are pronounced more slowly or, conversely, faster. Some people develop hoarseness or high notes slip. If the interlocutor is shy, then he may start to stutter.

A smile can also tell you insincerity. Many people smile a little when they tell a lie. The interlocutor should be alerted if the smile is completely inappropriate. This facial expression allows you to hide a little awkwardness and excitement. But this does not apply to cheerful people who always try to smile.

Facial muscle tension

If you look very closely at your opponent, you can figure out whether he is cheating or not. It will be given by micro-tension of the facial muscles, which lasts a few seconds. No matter how “stony” the interlocutor speaks, instant tension is still inevitable.

The deceiver betrays not only the position of the eyes when lying, but also the uncontrollable skin and other parts of the face. The most common are: lip twitching, rapid blinking, or skin discoloration.

Lying gestures

Well-known experts agreed that when a person cheats, he performs typical actions:

touches the face with his hands;
covers his mouth;
scratches nose, rubs eyes, or touches ear;
pulls back the collar on the clothes.

But all these gestures can speak of lies only when there are other signs of deception. Therefore, the most reliable is the definition of lies by eyes, facial expressions, movements and behavior. Learning to diagnose a lie can help you avoid being a victim and always feel confident.

As practice shows, the person who often communicates with other people is capable of accurately recognizing lies. He should also be able to soberly perceive the situation and events, be attentive and try to notice all the nuances and subtleties of their behavior. Rich communication experience and the ability to analyze will help to correctly perceive all the information received and assess its reliability.

Perhaps, today knowledge will be useful to everyone, which will decipher and tell us how to understand that a person is lying. It's easy if learn a few secrets and be able to use them.

Psychology will put everything in its place, and gestures, facial expressions, phrases and glances will help you find out that the person is lying.

Nobody is immune to lies. Some people lie in small things, trying to reveal only half the truth, for someone lying is a hobby, but for someone it is a habit. But there is a category of people for whom lying has become a profession and each of us can be in the place of the victim of such a liar.

How to protect yourself from lies and determine that a person is lying? To understand this will help advice from psychologists able to analyze human behavior and reveal the main signs of a lie.

Minimum gestures... People who talk from a pure heart are always emotional. They gesticulate to draw attention to their problem. The liar's gestures are minimal, he keeps them under control and uses them only unconsciously. It is subconscious signals that help us know that a person is lying.
When a person lies, he trying to cover his face with his hands: often touches the forehead, lips or nose.
You can recognize a liar by looking - he tries not to look the other person in the eye, his pupils are constricted. The liar very rarely blinks and rarely fixes his gaze at one point.
The man who tells a lie holds a closed pose: crosses his arms over his chest or hugs himself slightly.
If a person is not used to lying, he may be a little nervous, fiddling with a pen, sheet of paper or any other object. But this also happens with insecure people.
The interlocutor who lies can take a short pause in the conversation: Coughing up or drinking water.

In fact, it is sometimes very difficult or almost impossible to determine that a person is lying. Some people are so believe their lies that they are very difficult to catch with the help of gestures and facial expressions. Such personalities lie constantly, a lie for them is a certain way of life or even a disease. But even here there are a couple of secrets to recognize whether a person is telling the truth or not.

If a person repeats a phrase like“I never lie” or “Have I ever lied to you?” Means he wants to hide the truth.

If your interlocutor does not have a phenomenal memory, then after a while he will forget the details about which he lied. He will repeat a well-thought-out lie down to the smallest detail, but specific questions will certainly unbalance him. Ask to describe the situation in more detail or specify the circumstances under which it occurred. Usually liars start to get confused about details or come up with ridiculous situations.

Sometimes, during such checks, a person can behave aggressively or, on the contrary, wants to arouse pity in the interlocutor or endear him to himself. With such conversations the liar often tries to translate the topic or answer a question with a question. Try to play by the rules of the interlocutor and turn the conversation in a different direction. You will notice that the person has relaxed, calmed down and does not intend to return to the exciting topic anymore.

Where does a person look when he lies?

We promised to tell you how to understand that a person is lying in the eyes and where he is looking in this case. Of many people gives out a look, they may even look you in the eye, but they continue to lie.

When a person speaks the truth, his gaze is directed inward, as if into himself. He speaks in a measured tone, his lips pursed. On the contrary, a liar looks up and into the distance as if thinking about a nonexistent subject. He speaks too fast or, conversely, too slow. It can also betray the cheater right gaze.

When thinking up a situation, a person can turn their head slightly to the right and look up. At the same time, he, as it were, imperceptibly tries to look at the interlocutor, studying his reaction.

How to understand that a person is lying to you by correspondence?

It happens that we cannot establish visual contact with the interlocutor. And here there are a couple of tricks... When a person is far away, he relaxes and can use words that will certainly give him away.

There is one telling story, how a girl exposed her boyfriend in a lie by reading his message. The guy wrote to his girlfriend something like this: "I am at home, and I will be there until the evening." After reading it, the girl realized that she was being deceived. After all, if her beloved was really at home, he would have written "here" and not "there." So, people are betrayed by carelessly spoken phrases. It is important to learn to read between the lines and catch such inconsistencies.

Eyes - a versatile lie detector

The eyes are one of the most perfect lie detectors, by the movement of the eyeballs you can determine what a person is thinking at the moment, whether he is telling the truth or lying. People move their eyes in certain directions depending on what type of thinking is involved. Eye observation is one of the simplest techniques for obtaining information about a person's thoughts and emotions.

Studies show that the pupil dilates all the way up to 45% if what we see we like, and vice versa narrows if we don't like it. It is also common for a person to squint his eyes when he experiences negative emotions. These eye reactions last about 1/8 of a second, but if you watch closely, you will definitely notice them. One of the options for non-verbal cues involving the eyes is blocking the eyes. When a person, in response to visual or auditory information, covers his eyes with his hand, touches his eyelid, or simply closes his eyes for a split second, this indicates negative emotions from the information received. Even your own thoughts can cause such a reaction. It is worth noting that at the moment of stress, blinking of the eyes increases. When a person experiences positive emotions, the eyes will be wide open, the eyebrows will be raised. The enlargement of the eyes is also observed at the moment of surprise. Take a close look at the photos in the site's emotions gallery. Determine which facial muscle groups are involved depending on the emotion.

Decoding of eye movement.

1.- Move the eyes up to the left.

(Image-memory). When we visualize something from our experience: "What color is your car?" and along with the verbal response, you will receive a look upward to the left, typical of visual memories.

"When was the last time you saw this person?"

2. - Defocusing of the eyes.

The eyes are defocused, their position is fixed, the pupil is somewhat dilated. Visuals can be from memory or constructed.

3. - Movement of the eyes up to the right.

Constructed image. Visual representation of images, phenomena or objects that we have not seen before, or the representation of phenomena and objects not as we saw them before. "What will the cow look like?"

Auditory recollection of those sounds that we have already heard before. “What does your favorite song sound like? "

Auditory construction. Auditory representation of sounds we have never heard before. "How does your dream song sound?" "How would your phone sound if you covered it with your hand?"

6. Move the eyes down to the left.

Internal conversation. This direction of the eyes also coincides with the function of speech control, when a person chooses the words that he wants to pronounce. This direction of gaze can often be seen on the translator during interpretation, on the student's diploma for the person giving the interview.

7. - Eyes down to the right.

Feeling of emotions, tactile sensations, feelings of movement, smell. "How do you feel when you feel angry?" “How do you feel when you play sports? "Remember how a burn bakes?" The important point is that it is impossible to construct sensations - we cannot imagine those feelings that we did not actually experience.

There is a typical pattern of eyeball movements called "Lie detector": direction of gaze from the visual structure (right upward, right horizontally) to speech control (left downward); in inner experience it corresponds to such a sequence - first to imagine, to construct, how it could be, and then to say only what corresponds to it, nothing superfluous.

And now a couple of examples from life.

During the interrogation, the investigator asks the woman a question: What kind of relationship did you have with citizen "K"?

Answer: We were friends ”- and looks down to the right. She goes into kinesthetic (sensory memories). Judging by the reaction of the eyes, namely the memories of sensations, we can conclude that the woman told a lie.

A similar situation: The husband returns from vacation, the wife asks: How did you rest? The husband replies: It was boring and looks down to the right. He goes into kinesthetic (sensory memories). It is too early to draw conclusions about lies, but we can say that he has something to remember.

Question: What happened at your meeting?

Answer: Nothing special, we talked and said goodbye. The eyes go to the left - up, while the pupils are narrowed. There really was a meeting, but his memories evoke more negative emotions. It can be assumed that there was a quarrel at the meeting.