Can't hear people all the time. Hamer people hear what others don't.

If you hear some sounds that others do not hear, and the doctor in the clinic throws up his hands in surprise, do not rush to contact a psychiatrist.

Perhaps you are just one of the so-called "Hamers". Ham (Hum) - this is the name of a steady humming noise that is observed in certain places on the planet, and is heard by only a few people.

It was first spoken about in the 1950s, when complaints from people began to flock from different places about the uniform, incessant hum. Since then, scientists have practically not budged in the study of this unusual phenomenon... Little is known about him. This noise is a pulsating or even, annoying low frequency hum, reminiscent of the sound of a diesel engine idling.

Hamers complain of headaches, nausea, dizziness, nosebleeds, and sleep disturbances. The sound is more often heard in rural areas, and the sound is amplified at night.

In Great Britain, the facts of the appearance of a mysterious noise were recorded in Leeds, Bristol, and Scotland. Moreover, the first case dates back to 1970, when 800 people immediately complained about it. In addition, it was reported by residents of New Mexico and Sydney.

In 2003, acoustics expert Jeff Leventhal found that only 2% of all earthlings can hear this sound. Moreover, most often this gift is possessed by people aged 55 - 70 years. According to him, at least one case is known when the incessant rumble drove a person to suicide.

Those who hear the noise call it torture. "It's kind of torture, sometimes you just want to scream. It's hard to fall asleep because I hear this pulsing sound all the time. You start toss and turn and think about it even more," says Cathy Jacques from Leeds.

Scientists cannot yet determine the nature of the phenomenon and explain why it affects people. In the early 1990s. researchers from the Los Alamos National Laboratory at the University of New Mexico tried to solve the riddle. Ultimately, however, they came to the conclusion that the source of the hum was transport and factories.

Some researchers have suggested that noise is actually an illusion. Allegedly, a hum, which in reality does not exist, is heard by patients. Others believe it is the result of low frequency electromagnetic radiation or seismic activity that only a select few can pick up.

A number of experts suggest that gifted individuals undergo cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help them cope with noise. At the same time, there are no prerequisites for the fact that the secret will be revealed in the near future. "This mystery has been around for the last 40 years, and it may remain one of many mysteries," says Leventhal.

Some astronauts also hear inexplicable sounds in the orbit of the planet. In 2004, astronauts aboard the ISS repeatedly heard an unusual metallic sound. Cosmonaut Alexander Kaleri said the noise was like "drum beats."

"The crew heard a sound resembling a crumpled metal tin can for one second. Perhaps this sound could be associated with some device inside the station. What it is - it is not yet possible to determine, but in any case, the check that the crew carried out shows that there are no changes either in the instrument compartments or in the atmosphere of the station, which would have changed instantly if there had been a breakdown of the skin, "Sergei Gorbunov, press secretary of the Russian Space Agency, said earlier.

Since then, the source of the noise has not been identified.

Often spouses who have consulted a psychologist complain that they do not hear each other.

They talk, listen, try to understand, but in vain. Why? In psychology, there are many theories that contain different opinions about what are the reasons for the inattention of partners to each other.

Psychologists answer the question like this: “A man and a woman are two separate worlds. With different generic scripts and family attitudes formed in childhood. Each has its own personality, personality, and traumatic childhood experiences. By getting rid of trauma, false attitudes and realizing generic scenarios, you can begin to hear your partner and understand him, thereby improving the relationship. "

What will Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology say about this? Will the awareness of scenario behavior bring partners closer to understanding and help to hear each other? Or maybe the reasons are completely different?

Everyone wants to be happy

People get the greatest happiness in a heterosexual couple. This was nature's intention. A man and a woman, despite external and internal differences, having united, are able to feel incredible pleasure from communicating with each other.

Each person is by nature an egoist who is aware only of himself. He wants happiness for himself and does not want to think about something else. For the first time, he begins to feel the other person through dislike. When he does not give him happiness, does not want to please, he contradicts. Then a person suddenly realizes that there is another who interferes with being happy. This is where the desire to fight him arises. Words, deeds, manipulations, intrigues and scandals, bribery and blackmail are used. Everything that only comes to mind - everything goes into action. He wants to achieve what he wants for himself and cannot understand why his partner does not make him happy.

While everyone thinks only of himself, wishes happiness for himself, it will not work to hear each other. But, if, nevertheless, the spouses came for a consultation with a psychologist, it means that they want to hear each other and are ready to work on themselves.

In a couple, you can only be happy together. If this is understood, then each of the partners will try to fulfill the desires of the other. In this case, the relationship has a chance to develop. If partners want to invest in a relationship equally, dream of hearing and understanding each other, giving joy to the other, then they have every chance of being a truly happy couple.

How to hear each other

There is no other method, except for the System-Vector Psychology of Yuri Burlan, which could describe in such an easy-to-understand way inner world each person. And make it possible to understand the reasons for the actions of another. Without understanding characteristic features partner to maintain a relationship is very difficult. You can also live a life in conflicts and problems, but the quality of this life will be completely different than if you build it on mutual understanding and trust.

Each person is primarily a desire. He wants to enjoy life. And if a woman knows what her man needs, really understands what he wants, she seems to penetrate into his inner world and create in it everything that leads a man to satisfaction. A partner can do the same. He himself will suffer if close person does not get what he dreams of.

Without the ability to properly talk to each other and hear what has been said, three years after they met, a relationship based on the smell of pheromones may end or enter into a routine.

It is not difficult to hear each other - the main thing is to want to go towards each other, give in at the right moment and understand the reason why a person acts in a certain way. You can hear your beloved with your heart, which sometimes speaks better than the most beautiful speech. The main thing is to know what to say, how to speak and when.

Feel - to hear and understand

Spectators do not allow themselves to cry, for years they hide their experiences inside behind a high fence of insensibility, ostentatious indifference. And only when they begin to cry, talk about feelings, talk about their experiences, their world becomes different, and their relationship with their partner changes for the better.

Each person has his own special properties and his own task. Not understanding either their own or others' desires, partners demand the impossible from each other. The leatherworker is forced to take care of children and the house, the owner of the anal vector is driven into business. A man can demand from his skin-visual wife to do household chores, cook and reproach her for the absence of a maternal instinct, which she simply does not have. And she hurries her husband with the anal vector, knocking him out of a measured rhythm. So they live. Every day destroying each other in word and deed.

Word can heal

We don’t even think about what effect the word has on a person. We speak, but we are not heard. We are told, and we do not hear. We cannot make out the meaning of the words. Or, on the contrary, we hear the meaning of what was said behind the words, and if this meaning carries an insult, sarcasm, an unflattering attitude towards us or other people, we do not want to hear it. We fence ourselves off from a partner, we try to avoid communication.

Today the word is devalued even among the masses. What happens in society affects the family as well. Freedom of speech has led to the fact that everything can be said, without thinking about the kind of charge that what is said.

Today all and sundry people say and write nasty things, so the word loses its original value.

In order not to cause themselves unnecessary discomfort and suffering, people stopped hearing each other. A person does not want to listen even to the good, and even to the bad.

If the owner of the anal vector listens to everything that the skin wife sometimes tells him, he may get a heart attack. He takes everything to heart - such a person. Doesn't listen because she protects herself.

It is very important for people to know what can and cannot be said. And how to speak is also necessary to understand.

This is especially true for people who have a sound vector. They have a very sensitive ear. An offensive word spoken even in a whisper can hurt so much that it will turn a partner away forever. For example, such words include mat.

A person with a sound vector is one for whom bodily pleasures are secondary. In the first place in a relationship is intimacy, the feeling that partners are one. Silence and deep meaning of everything that happens to him is important for such a person. And the swear word is about the sexual.

If a person, especially a woman, hears obscenities or offensive speech, he takes it personally. Mat hurts, devalues ​​the most sacred relationships. And on the owners of the sound vector, the mate acts even more destructively.

Not knowing the characteristics of each other, partners can hurt with a word so that it will be very difficult to restore relations. Something that flies past the ears of one person may be painful for another. One harsh word can cross out all the good things in a relationship. Conversely, pleasant, positively colored, supportive words inspire, make a partner stronger, and help overcome adversity.

Nobody likes to hear insults in their address. Everyone wants to be loved and enjoy living together. By violating the laws of partnership, people get a consequence that they don't like. And only the awareness of the reasons why a person thinks, speaks or acts in a certain way can radically change the situation and direct relations in a peaceful direction.

What do you want to hear?

We know that all people are different, but we do not understand what this really means. Everyone has their own innate desires and properties called vectors. System-vector psychology explains that if you sincerely say to a man with an anal vector, "I respect you, you are great," you can easily straighten out the conflict. To say that he is the best is a balm for his soul. After all, he is, indeed, by nature the best husband, father and even stepfather.

If the same words are attributed to a partner who has a urethral vector, then you can lose his location. For him, such praise is humiliating. Such a man cannot be compared with others and cannot be doubted. He is the leader and must always be the first.

For the owner of the skin vector, a career and a high financial position are important. Talking to him about family holidays and everyday life, you can see the boredom in his eyes. To be able to interest such a man, you need to know his innermost desires.

The owner of the visual vector can be easily endeared to yourself, to win her attention. It is worth saying: "You are so beautiful", and even giving flowers, and all her attention will be directed towards her partner. Positive emotions are a feeling of immeasurable happiness for such a woman. And the more such emotions she experiences, the more beautiful and happier her life.

Everyone wants to hear from a partner what is pleasant for him - words that correspond to his individual idea of ​​the world, his values. Knowing the character traits and understanding the desires of the spouse, sometimes long conversations are not needed, which for some generally seem meaningless.

You can know one or two words that you need to say to your loved one at the moment, and hopeless situation becomes fixable.

What is allowed to say

The emotional background in a relationship depends on the woman. Therefore, most often it is women who turn to a psychologist for help. Their interest in preserving marriage is due to nature. A woman receives a sense of security and safety from her husband and transfers this feeling to her children. The fortunes of each family member are interdependent. If a woman is in good emotional state, then other family members are doing well.

A man and a woman are really two different worlds with their bulges and depressions, which ideally should coincide, thereby creating new world consisting of two halves of the soul. The whole picture called "happy family". And such a fusion can be achieved in each pair thanks to systemic knowledge.

System-vector psychology notes that a woman can always be desirable for a man, provided that there is a sensual, emotional connection... Which, even if you do not work out psychological trauma, will still serve for the benefit of family happiness for many years.

Spiritual closeness enables a man to feel the desire and strength to give his woman everything she wants. This will help to cope with difficulties if any arise. And live life in all its fullness and pleasure.

"I thought about vacation - and my wife decided where we will go."

“... Before, I was simply enraged that my wife did not devote enough time to her family, but spent it on her career and social life. “Where did you run, you little fist? Better take care of the children, ”I told her earlier. And now ... Together we were able to agree and settle this problem. Recently, I was finally able to realize why my wife is so important career and social life. Having understood root cause her desires, I was able to accept them. Her behavior stopped annoying me. I managed to change the attitude towards my wife. The most amazing thing is that she also changed her attitude towards me. Previously, everyone spoke from their own point of view, and we did not manage to come to an agreement. Recently we were able to understand and accept the point of view of another. "

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If you hear any sounds that other people do not hear, this does not mean at all that you have auditory hallucinations and it is time to see a psychiatrist. Perhaps you belong to the category of so-called hamers. The term comes from english word hum meaning hum, hum, hum.

Strange complaints

For the first time, attention was paid to the phenomenon in the 50s of the last century: people living in different parts of the planet complained that they constantly hear a certain uniform humming sound. Most often, people from rural areas talked about this. They argued that an incomprehensible sound is amplified at night (apparently, because the general sound background decreases at this time). Those who heard it often experienced side effects - headache, nausea, dizziness, nosebleeds, and insomnia.

In 1970, 800 Britons immediately complained about the mysterious noise. Similar episodes also took place in New Mexico and Sydney.

In 2003, acoustics specialist Jeff Leventhal discovered that only 2% of all people on Earth can hear strange sounds. Mostly these are people aged 55 to 70 years. In one case, a hamer even committed suicide, as he could not endure the incessant hum.

“It's a kind of torture, sometimes you just want to scream,” described her feelings Katie Jacques from Leeds (UK). - It is difficult to fall asleep because I hear this pulsating sound continuously. You start toss and turn and think about it even more. "

Where does the noise come from?

Researchers have been trying to find the source of the noise for a long time. In the early 1990s, researchers at the Los Alamos National Laboratory at the University of New Mexico concluded that hamers hear sounds that accompany traffic and manufacturing processes in factories. But this version is controversial: after all, as mentioned above, most of the hamers live in rural areas.

According to another version, there is actually no hum: this is an illusion generated by a diseased brain. Finally, the most interesting hypothesis is that some people are hypersensitive to low frequency electromagnetic radiation or seismic activity. That is, they hear the "hum of the Earth", which most people do not pay attention to.

Hearing paradoxes

The fact is that the average person is able to perceive sounds in the range from 16 hertz to 20 kilohertz, if sound vibrations are transmitted through the air. When sound is transmitted through the bones of the skull, the range increases to 220 kilohertz.

For example, fluctuations in the human voice can range from 300 to 4000 hertz. Sounds above 20,000 hertz we hear worse. And vibrations below 60 hertz are perceived by us as vibrations. High frequencies are called ultrasound, low frequencies are called infrasound.

Not all people respond the same to different sound frequencies. It depends on many individual factors: age, gender, heredity, the presence of auditory pathologies, etc. So, it is known that there are people who are able to perceive sounds of high frequency - up to 22 kilohertz and above. At the same time, animals can sometimes hear acoustic vibrations in a range that is inaccessible to humans: bats use ultrasound for echolocation during flights, and whales and elephants supposedly communicate with each other using infrasonic vibrations.

In early 2011, Israeli scientists found that the human brain has special groups of neurons that allow us to estimate the pitch down to 0.1 tones. Most animal species, with the exception of bats, do not have such "adaptations". With age, due to changes in the inner ear, people begin to perceive high frequencies worse and develop sensorineural hearing loss.