When a child needs to be transferred to another school. How do I transfer my child to another school? Step-by-step description of the procedure and recommendations

Please help me solve the problem, we want to transfer my daughter to another school. We have a language gymnasium, English every day, huge volumes of the house. Assignments + many tasks in other subjects. I had to give up dancing and painting, because there is really not enough time for lessons. We decided not to torture the child and transfer to another school without a bias in the language, the general education program is the same. The child is in grade 2. The daughter is sociable, but a little shy. So I don’t know if she needs to be translated or left in this school ??? we will study the language with a tutor (he is still with us), a little later with a native speaker, trips from 12-13 years old to language camps in Europe. so do children at this age quickly join the new team?

We now have the same problem, boy, grade 2, we will move to another school, what to do, nowhere to go, it’s impossible to leave the old school, really torment for the child. The second class is still nothing, still small. Although I myself am very worried.

That's right, that torment! Of course we have a good class, the teacher selected all the children from the preparation, educated, etc., therefore, the unknown in the new school scares what kind of children will be in the class, as a child will be accepted ...

Oh, the author, we have the same situation, children brought up to the point are impossible, kind, but it is very difficult to study, in fact, we have not studied in October, the stress is wildest, November has come, so we think and decide which school. It's scary, but I see only one prospect to stay there too - to become a patient of a neurologist and treat tics and so on.

I also believe that if we don't go to another school now, the child will have a nervous breakdown very soon. It's impossible to constantly learn! Children need to take a walk, play, and just relax, circles again, sections, and here it turns out continuous study ...

In my entire school life, 4 schools have changed - everyone survived quite safely, no one died. You write about the change in the team, as if we are talking about the adoption of a new wife into the family. Everything is much easier in normal classes, and in abnormal classes there is nothing to do.

Who knows the normal class or not in advance? This is the problem, I have already chosen the wrong school for my child, and the reviews were great! For the second time, I want to quietly unlearn there until grade 11. Unfortunately, there are no signs on the doors of the classrooms "normal class, good children, excellent teacher", alas. So I'm shaking and sitting, there, or here, or wherever, my whole head is already boiling.

Anonymous wrote: >> So I don’t know if I need to translate it or leave it at this school ???

If you don’t know, then it’s better to suffer even more over the decision. (I didn't translate mine in a similar situation)

And, well, you didn't have any problems, only you didn't like the grades, it is clear why translate. We have something different, does not want to go to school, cries, tantrums in the morning and evening if tomorrow it is necessary to go to school, at school he cries, does not want to do homework, cries, but studies at 5, does not want to walk, eat, swim, read, nothing does not want to, does not want to play. A month almost did not go to school, reads, teaches poetry, began to swim, asks to eat, we have obvious stress from school, light tics appeared

In fact, this is a very common situation now - parents, before their child goes to first grade, very carefully choose a school, collect information about the teacher, the school. As a rule, parents are looking for a "strong" school, in which, in addition to the basic subjects, there are many additional ones, and, as the parents believe, are very necessary. They prefer to choose a teacher who is strict, but fair. This is all clear and understandable. We all want the best for our children, both now and in the future. But very often it turns out that, firstly, how we imagined education in a "strong" school and what it actually turned out to be are two different things. And secondly, we did not quite calculate the strength of the child. And instead of the child gaining various important knowledge every day, he generally refuses to go to school, tears, tantrums, colds and other diseases begin. It's just that the child's nervous system cannot cope with such loads - and the protective mechanism of self-preservation is triggered. Changing the team, of course, will require certain efforts from the child (to adapt to the new class, teacher), but here we must try to take into account all the pros and cons of the fact that the child will remain in the old school, and those that will be in the new school. It is better to do this on paper, dividing the sheet into two halves. First "scan" the old school and then analyze the new school. Make a conclusion based on which of the options the child's nervous system will remain in a more intact state. After all, if there is no health, then knowledge will not bring any benefit. Sorry it got so long.

You are right! We did everything exactly as you wrote. We went "to the teacher" - she is not strict, she loves children, a strong teacher, but the loads are very large + the language is daily in a large number. And the new school is ordinary, with the same general education program, but without the language (2 times a week). The teacher liked the new one, in some way even in character it is similar to ours, he says that the children in the class are good and strong, but what they really do not know! In our school there was a selection of children, almost all children from normal and decent families, in our class all parents are normal, children do not call names, do not fight (it happens, of course, that they are hooligans), they don’t show off their phones and all sorts of gadgets, but what awaits us in the new school, I can’t know. I asked the parents near the school, who met the children, they seemed to be happy.

Thank you for your post, I am not an author, we have the same problems, and the funny thing is that I chose not a strong school, and I asked who how they studied, and still, we turned out to be a very strong teacher, just not a little, without a husband and children, he does not sleep at night, he comes up with tasks, he seems to treat the child well, but he crushes like an asphalt roller and demands to learn everything, to do everything, God forbid not to finish teaching. We were called to a gymnasium class at a school near the house, a courtyard, they called us straight, we went to get ready there, but we decided why we needed it, it's too difficult in a gymnasium class, we chose a simpler school, even moved, but it turned out that this "simpler" would be worse than many other "advanced", and other children coped with such a load, but mine is not. You do not know where you will find where you will lose ...

You know, I believe that the school, in addition to providing children with knowledge, is also a significant, so to speak, training ground for the psychological development and formation of a child. This is a kind of long enough training before adulthood. Here, children learn to interact, to work out various communication techniques both with peers (in the future, these are their friends, spouses, colleagues, etc.) and with teachers (this can be perceived as teaching how to interact more effectively with significant persons in the future, for example, the bosses , learn to defend their interests, and at the same time not violate the subordination and boundaries of another). In fact, it is rather difficult to say which function of the school - the first (educational), or the second (psychological formation) is more significant for the child. The only thing I can say (perhaps you will agree with me) is that the second function will be useful in its entirety to every child. And the more different children and adults will surround our children in this "learning space" and how successfully they learn (at this interval - with our (parental) support) to interact with them, the easier it will be for them later, in adulthood, to build relationships and at work and at home. Of course, we want to "spread straws" for them so that our children are surrounded by exceptionally good children from normal families. But in the future our children (as well as you and me) will be surrounded by completely different people. And if you look at the situation from this angle, it seems to be easier to allow your child to interact, from our point of view, with insufficiently adequate children, because we also have to communicate sometimes with not very "sane" adults. And plus the fact that we cannot scan every child who communicates with ours, and we cannot predict who, in the course of eleven school years, will be transferred to the class where our offspring is studying ...

If we decide, and most likely decide, then school will be several times easier, without a foreign language, the child studies well himself, I don't care if he has triples or fours with fives, mathematics, writing, reading and language are easy, but overload outrageous, a very long school day, a lot of lessons, we don't need this, or rather, of course, we would like to learn the language, but not at the cost of the child's health, somehow.

You write that the program is the same? I don’t believe in an excellent student, to whom 3 lessons per week play such a huge role. I don’t believe in the extraordinary loads in grade 2 for a talented child. What kind of lessons do you have? If you yourself first chose a full-time school with a bunch of nonsense, then yes, you should choose a normal school where there will be no nonsense in the afternoon, but there will be a good amount of language.

No, the program is completely different, apparently the author of the top writes about the same program. What are 3 lessons per week? Do not understand what you mean, sorry? The loads are outrageous, I compared them with the lessons of others, we have more than 2-3 times.
This is not a full-time school, I never planned to go to one like this, it looks like everything is fine, it seems like until 13.30, but in fact you can't leave before 15.00, and taking into account the DZ from the first grade !, so for 2 hours, I look at the handwriting here. Someone, laughter makes out, we would not even have bad marks for this, we would simply force to rewrite everything, but taking into account the DZ for another 2 hours, this is a bit too much for the first and second grades. Even just physically being at school until 15 o'clock is very hard for me.

2 weeks ago I transferred my son to another school, grade 2. I immediately joined the team, on the very first day I made friends with three boys and two girls. Further more. But he is sociable and easily converges with people. I was also worried. I decided it was better earlier. The older you are, the harder it will be to fit in.
When I gave a hint about transferring to another school, I almost cried: so many friends are here, I don't want to. And now she skips to a new school.

And we also. We moved to another area, I pick it up at 6.20 in the morning, we leave the house at 06.40, we are in time for traffic jams just in time for the 8th round. My daughter is in grade 3, she definitely needs to go to another school, but she's not going to any one, crying, worried that she will lose all her best friends, and there is a boy there with mutual love.)) And she also has sugar diabetic, type 1, how does she fit into the team ?? I’m all exhausted myself, my girl is shy enough ...

We moved to another city before third grade. Yes, the teacher had to adapt to the new team, but the child stopped crying for the old school quickly. If children communicate on social networks or on children's websites, then changing the team will be even easier.

No, no, well, we don't have any extracurricular activities, we have lessons, LESSONS, the school is strong, language, a lot of lessons and homework, the load is very large. Often, instead of a full-fledged walk (they are supposed to walk for an hour), they shove in lessons. I'm tired of it already.

Tell this in our school. We are in the second grade, by the way, in the first grade there is still nothing, they used to come home and there were still less lessons. They cram lessons into after-school hours, on a quiet, they cut off the walk, and if the weather is bad, then it's very good, you can still work out for the whole hour!

Why would I tell me this at your school? When I don't like something at school, I write an application addressed to the headmaster. If there are no changes, then in Depobr. If there are no changes, then I vote with my feet.

And it seems to me that it’s not the school that matters, but the fact that the girl is simply not psychologically ready for school and school loads. You, by any chance, did not send her to school from the age of 6? Or the timing is wrong.
Describe specifically, what is the excessive workload in the second grade?
Py.sy. I have a second-grader son, a school with in-depth study of foreign languages.
Daily 5 lessons - at 13:30 at home (we live close), swimming pool 3 times a week, 2 times a foreign language tutor. The lessons are done about 2-3 hours daily. But at 18:00 he is always free from both lessons and extra classes. Do you want to lie in front of the TV set, do you want to go for a walk, do you want to go to the movies ... He has a wonderful life!
They ask a lot - every day Russian, mathematics, English, a lot of reading. The lessons take a lot of time, but there is also elementary, time is spent only on the design of all these tasks.
I often help with all sorts of coloring and drawings, including English. The colors are written in English and you need to carefully paint the huge picture with the appropriate color. He will fiddle with this for an hour, get tired, and I have to do with 5 minutes. He already knows colors from the age of three ... I help a lot in my surroundings, I often read myself from reading. The first time I read it, and then he reads a familiar text. We never use drafts, just write everything into a clean copy so as not to lose strength.

Everything is perfectly organized for you, but the child is organized too.
Mine, in the fifth grade, for example, does Russian and math for 2.5 hours. Although, in my opinion, there is an elementary level: 2 exercises in the river yaz + 4 exercises. by mat.
Foreign language still takes 1.5 hours. A total of three hours for lessons in basic subjects. If we have asked an essay or a report, in general there is a guard - we do not have time for anything.

I won't say stupid. He just sits, gets distracted, makes mistakes, rewrites a hundred times. When you get tired - do not collect at all

So it depends on the child.

Well, mine is distracted, stupid, etc. Therefore, he sits for two or three hours in the 2nd grade. I constantly cruise alongside (I do not sit) and kick and push.
We came back from school, had lunch and sat down for lessons at 14:00. Usually it finishes at 16:30.
At 17:00 we either have a swimming pool or the tutor comes to our house. The pool is 5 minutes on foot, I have already carefully collected the bag. After the tutor or the pool, he is free, this is just 18:00 - 18:15.
But my contribution to this organization is enormous, if you don’t tell him to sit down and do your homework, then it seems to me that he will not even remember about them. In the meantime, he finds an eraser, a ruler, a new notebook ...
So I ask what the author has for exorbitant tasks? Specifically.
Maybe the girl is simply not ready, and instead of doing her homework for three hours she whines and hysteria that nothing is working out, and tomorrow she will go back to school. Maybe mom helps her "a little"?
It's only here, on Eve, everyone's children do their homework in an hour, and learn for only 6)) And in real life you can't ask anyone, everyone sits for three hours ... And if mom works, then in general go to bed after midnight ...

So for what reason is the statement then? That there is a lot of foreign language? That they went to this school then, they knew that there was a lot of language. About my baby crying after school and during school? Because dog teachers like that ask homework and ask strictly? Vasya learned poorly, got 2 or 3 and smokes bamboo, he is already fine, mine learned almost everything, when he told the story, he got lost, got 3, sits crying, he taught, he learned everything, wants to tell a good story, gets lost, gets a low mark, it is a disaster for him. Who should I complain about? Everyone is happy with everything, in the schedule, of course, everything is ok, but the program is complicated, the loads are very large, what should I personally complain about? Prove that instead of a walk, there were lessons, if only I do not like it, everyone else, on the contrary, is good, they study and do not squeak. And even if they do not hammer the time of the walk with lessons, all the same, we will not be able to pull such loads. Warning the question - yes, they approached the teacher, explained everything, temperament, nerves, that he was already afraid of her, all this is useless, things are still there.

According to the schedule there are 5, or 6, the schedule is normal, how to prove that the walk is being cut? How to prove that at breaks the children are not allowed out of the classroom and continue the lesson? I repeat, all parents are doing well. Nobody except me expresses dissatisfaction with this. Then what will I achieve? They will ask a part of what they did not go home, and there are a lot of tasks, much more so.

So I have the same case when my mom works (and dad). In the beginning, everything was OK, because the prolongation. I did everything there (at least somehow).
And now the 5th grade and oyoy ... And there is also sports and music.

We went to school at the age of 7, we have organized time, but look what happens: by 14:00 we are at home, have a quick lunch and run to do home assignments, and this is by mat-ke 2-3 numbers of examples + 1 task + 1-2 pages should be completely done in additional workbooks (A4 format) and there is no elementary work - examples of counting and subtraction up to 100, tasks of increased complexity (the teacher often prints such tasks on separate sheets), in Russian 1-2 exercises + rules learn + 1-2 pages in additional notebooks, reading-usually read the story + to the text do tasks in additional notebooks, the same for the surrounding world. English every day, 3-4 tasks in the textbook + 1 page in additional. notebooks, every other day we learn dialogues by heart and constantly write dictations of vocabulary. is a lot. If there is no tutor on that day, then the child does the lessons until about 18 hours and it turns out without a break after school! rests while having lunch, 15 minutes, and yesterday for example, we had 6 lessons until 14: 15, at home we had a quick lunch and at 15 o'clock we already have a tutor, she left at 16:30, my daughter drank Quick tea and sat down to do homework! The child turns out without rest, constantly learns, we personally do not need such a load .., so we decided to transfer.

And how does the child relate to the topic of moving to another school?
I also translated after the first one, though for a different reason. It took a long time to prepare: how to tell a child.
And he, surprisingly, was even delighted. The new school was much closer to home, there were friends who live in neighboring houses. And everything is OK.

Just find out first how much is asked "in a regular" school, otherwise it turns out that the same
Of course, what you have described is a bit too much, but you should see these tasks. Many, probably, do not need to rewrite in a notebook, but only write the answers? Addition / subtraction within 100 - and without a gymnasium program, simple equations are already solved with a check, such as: x-524 = 97, problems in 3 actions (Peterson program), etc.
And in Russian ... Well, what are the rules that you LEARN? An adjective is a part of speech that answers the question what? which? which? This is the children in the lesson disassemble and it does not need to be memorized.
Ours are now actively engaged in parts of speech - noun, adj., Verbs. They emphasize, ask questions, analyze proposals.
The world around you - everything you can do for a child, saves time and nerves
In English. probably a bit too much. In general, think a hundred times. Good luck!

Unfortunately, a head transplant along with a brain has not yet been mastered. Replacing the brain with another absolutely problem-free is also not done yet. My child is crying because he cannot cope with the loads, for us the solution to the problem is school as simple as possible, with an increase in the home study load if the child has such a desire and strength. Therefore, we leave this school and go to another. For mine, this is just the solution to the problem. Not all children are ready to study with heavy loads, unfortunately, or fortunately, I don’t know.

We have exactly the same regime, this is horror, I also want to translate for the same reasons, plus the child is already psychotic, I was in another school today, I talked with the director, while I’m still thinking, but I am inclined towards her. We also don't need such a load, I think the translation will be successful.

I learned everything, they don't ask a lot of lessons (when compared with our volume). And we teach the rules on all the topics that we go through and then the children write these rules on sheets of paper for assessment and the most interesting thing is if it is for a good grade, then it is not given, if it is 2 or 3, then it is immediately in the magazine. Many children know the rules perfectly, but when writing they make mistakes and why this is completely incomprehensible. In the surrounding world, you cannot do anything for the child, because. they write tests every 2-3 lessons, so the child needs to do everything himself and remember everything.

Well, then it sounds like a teacher's petty tyranny. Especially about grades and rules on pieces of paper ... I wish your daughter to quickly adapt to the new team and live a normal school life. Good luck!

Sometimes it is required to assign a child to study at another school. The reason may be various factors - a change of residence, the bias of an educational institution, etc. Now the procedure for transferring a child to another school has been greatly simplified.

What you need to know about transferring your child to another school

The translation takes place in stages - the required educational institution is searched for, an application is submitted there. Then there is expulsion from the previous school. The documents are transferred to a new one. It is important to provide psychological support to the child. After all, he finds himself in a different environment!

Many parents are interested in the question of whether it is possible to transfer their child to another school at the height of the school year. The institution where the student or his parents apply has no right to refuse them without good reason.

Children who live near the educational institution have priority. Then there are those who do not go by registration. Refusal is possible only in a few cases:

no free places;
the student did not pass the test when transferring to a specialized educational institution or school with in-depth knowledge of specific subjects.

An educational institution with a sports bias can hold competitive competitions, and also has the right to require a certificate from a doctor with permission to increase physical activity and the absence of contraindications.

Preparing your child for a new school

When assigning a child to a new school, you need to prepare for refusal if there are no free places in the educational institution. On this basis, even children may not be accepted (first graders are an exception) living in the area. In this case, the parents must enroll the child in the queue at the Department of Education.

To transfer a student from a regular educational institution to another, with a specific bias (English, mathematics, etc.), the student must prove that he is ready for additional intellectual or physical stress (homework increases or changes, the number of lessons, etc.) .). This may require passing preliminary tests.

When transferring from primary school to gymnasium, a student must undergo an individual interview with teachers and a child psychologist. If the educational institution has a bias in foreign languages, an additional test is taken.

Sometimes certification is required in all school subjects or only in specialized ones. Some institutions will need to pay in advance the entrance or annual fees.

Host confirmation

To begin with, a request is made to a specific educational institution, whether they will be able to accept another person. This is possible if the school has free places. The administration of the educational institution must confirm in writing the admission of the child to study.

The parent needs to meet in person with the director. A letter confirming that the child is being taken can be received immediately on the spot. It should state that the new school agrees to accept the student after his expulsion from the previous educational institution. On permission, the director puts his signature and seal of the institution.

Application submission

An application for transfer to a new educational institution can be submitted directly by the child himself, provided that he reaches the age of majority. In other cases, parents do this if the student is not yet 18 years old.

First, the application is filled out in the name of the head of the institution in which the student is studying at this time. The document indicates:

Full name of the student;
Date of Birth;
Class;
profile training;
host school number.

If the parents want to transfer the child to another educational institution due to the move, then only the future settlement is indicated. To apply, you already need to have a permit from the new school on hand. The educational institution has the right to demand confirmation that the child is being accepted for training.

On the basis of the application at the school from which the student is expelled, an administrative act is issued. It indicates the reason for the transfer of the child and the new place of study. Simultaneously with the act, a certificate is issued about the disciplines mastered by the student.

Translation documents

Before transferring a child to another school, you need to pick up his personal file and papers with data on academic performance this year. An extract from the class journal with grades and results of tests and exams is requested. The documents are certified by the seal of the school and signed by the director or his deputy.

The following papers are submitted to the new school.

Application for admission. It is issued in the name of the director of the new educational institution.
All documents from the previous school, as well as the identity of the student. In the case when the student is under 18 years of age, identity documents are taken from the student's parents.
Medical certificate of the child's health.

In addition to the above, the headmaster has no right to demand any other official papers. The order for the enrollment of a new student must be issued within three days from the date of submission of all documents.

Features of the translation process

Transferring to another school is a great stress for the child. Adaptation will be required not only for first graders, but also for older children. However, children have a more flexible psyche than adults, so addiction comes quickly. The task of the parents is to help the child adapt to the changes.

The teachers and the psychologist of the new educational institution should help with this. A big burden will still fall on the shoulders of the parents. The child will need to join a new team in which social tasks may differ from the usual. An important role is played by the way to school, the environment in the classroom, the character of other students, etc.

At first, the student will feel uncomfortable and detached, he will often begin to remember his former classmates and friends and be wary of teachers. It will not be easy for a child to get used to the new program. Parents should carefully listen to all his fears, help with practical advice in specific situations, and provide moral support.

While the student is getting used to the conditions, he cannot be made to exaggerate requirements. The atmosphere at home should be calm. The child may appear withdrawn, sudden changes in mood.

Helping a child to adapt to new conditions

To facilitate adaptation, it is best to transfer a student to a new institution in the summer, before September 1, before the school year begins. In this case, getting used to it will be much easier, and this is exactly what you want. It is best to visit the school in advance with your child. On vacation, you can simply walk along the corridors, inspect the classrooms, meet the director and teachers who will be in the educational institution.

It is necessary to provide the child with the opportunity to communicate with teachers. Let the student talk about his preferences and hobbies. At home, one should not be afraid to discuss the transition to a new school. Parents should focus on the positive aspects, discuss prospects.

It is best to buy school supplies with your child so that everything you need is in stock. Communication with old classmates and friends should be encouraged. By this, the parents make it clear that life has remained the same, the external situation has simply changed. Pets should welcome acquaintances and not interfere with communication and guests.

In order to avoid ridicule or negativity from new classmates, it is necessary to advise the student to be himself, behave kindly and not impose friendship. Before starting friendships, the child should take a closer look at the people around him.

If the new school takes joint hiking trips, excursions and other cultural events, parents should allow their son or daughter to take an active part in them. In meetings, adults need to build good relationships with other parents.

It is important to follow the new daily routine. The child should eat on time, get enough sleep, have time to do homework and walk in the fresh air. This will allow him to quickly join the pace of the educational process. If a student wants to enroll in circles, you need to meet him halfway, since this is only for the benefit. If necessary, you should take your child to a child psychologist.

Some parents will be surprised and even outraged after reading the title of this article. Like, what's so special, they took the documents from one school and took them to another!

Children are not adults, which means that it will be easier for them to adapt in a team, it is easier to find new friends. Accordingly, there should be no problems with classmates and academic performance.

My personal vision, based so far only on the experience of friends and acquaintances, is slightly different from the generally accepted opinions on this matter. Before my eyes, there were periods of difficult childhood adaptation, during which schoolchildren were sick, their academic performance dropped, and relations with their parents worsened.

Some people had a hard time changing teachers or parting with their best friend, and someone did not have enough favorite circles or sports sections. We all know that a coach or teacher means a lot not only for schoolchildren, but also for adults. We get used to everything and stick with our souls.

Due to the fact that my son is about to transfer to another school, I decided to study this topic in more detail and prepare for this important event in advance.

If I know what can happen and how, then I will be "armed" and will be able to help my child. I will note that my son is quite sociable, not squeezed, but a little vulnerable and touchy.

The fact that he does not accumulate grievances, and that vulnerability does not deprive him of the ability to "give back" and defend ourselves, us - parents - calms and sets us in a positive mood. I am sure that everything will be easy and painless, and no one will have to "give change".

But it can be different. And all this is better "to know by sight."

“I don’t want to change school! I want to study here! "

They don't just transfer children from one school to another. As a rule, a serious reason contributes to the transition: moving to another district or city, changing school to a gymnasium or lyceum, serious conflicts with a teacher or with peers, etc.

Moreover, the behavior of the parents is different in each of the above cases.

New apartment - new school!

Have you ever transplanted indoor plants? I think yes. The time comes - and the beloved violet becomes cramped in the pot. How can you not improve the conditions for a flower if it will grow better later, bloom more actively and delight us more? We expect the best changes.

But it so happens that giving the silent friend more space, we get the opposite result. The flower stops growing, stops blooming, or withers altogether. Something went wrong somewhere. The plant didn't like something. And we cannot understand the reason for his displeasure.

Now let's get back to school questions. When a small person changes school, like a plant, he loses his usual environment: teachers, friends, and even a school desk. And most importantly, he changes the position in the classroom. He becomes a "novice" who needs time to gain credibility.

Moving to a new apartment in itself is a positive event, bringing new emotions, joy and hope to the family. Adults are very motivated to own their own home or home better than the previous one.

But what about a schoolchild who was doing well in the "old" school? After all, he, like a disgruntled violet in a new pot, may experience a "program failure." He needs to tune in for the best and adapt easily. With our help.

The new school means new friends, interesting circles and sports sections, which means new successes, impressions, emotions. A little time will pass, and school life will become just as rich and interesting, and most importantly - feasible, not bringing grief and psychological discomfort.

This is not about the grades in the diary, but about the mental comfort of the student in the new team.

The child should learn from the parents about the intricacies of the transition, about possible difficulties, about ways to overcome them. It is necessary to show sensitivity and attention in relation to adaptation, and then it will become invisible.

For our family, the topic of moving is relevant, since the construction of our house is coming to an end. The son and daughter will change everything, because they are leaving the city for a cottage village.

We will try very hard to keep in touch with children's friends, following the saying “an old friend is better than two new ones”, but whether to stay in the old school is still an open question.

We are looking for a good teacher!

It often happens that the school is changed due to problems with the teacher. In this case, great hopes are pinned on the new educational institution. These are the expectations of the disappearance of the difficulties of communicating with the teacher, the hopes of improving academic performance or improving discipline.

To achieve these results, parents must do serious work with the child. The schoolchild does not change by itself, only the environment around him changes. And if the model of his behavior is the same, then similar conflicts are very likely in the new school.

All "old" problems must be sorted out and analyzed, the reasons for their occurrence must be helped to the child to realize. If classmates or the teacher himself were to blame, then it is better to have a frank conversation with the new teacher.

A good teacher will definitely try to avoid similar situations, which will be the key to a calm study and a healthy psyche of the child.

Do not be afraid to “reveal” to the teacher the peculiarities, strengths and weaknesses of a son or daughter. This will help them build the right relationship. As you know, bad things will come out sooner or later, and an informed teacher will be able to prevent a lot.

The son of my friends, Anton, was not distinguished by restraint, despite the upbringing of his parents. He could quarrel with anyone, defending his opinion and defending his truth.

Mom frankly told the new teacher about this. An experienced teacher helped Anton to establish relationships with peers, authoritatively and tactfully explaining in the very first lessons that the truth is different and the opinions of each of the students are very dear to her.

Goodbye elementary school, hello gymnasium!

If in an ordinary elementary school the child does very well and pleases the parents with the ease of learning, then after graduation, a decision is often made at the family council about the student's admission to the gymnasium.

And here the child may need the help of the parents. Together with psychological adaptation in the new class, the son or daughter will have to get used to the enhanced program and serious studies at home.

The student will have less free time, the daily routine may change. In-depth education and the high status of the educational institution must correspond to the abilities of the student. Otherwise, his powers will quickly deplete and turn into nervous tension, illness.

If your student is behind the laggards in high school, give him a chance to be in the top three in a regular school! This will help keep him healthy and self-confident!

Taking into account the wishes of child psychologists, and summing up my reasoning, I have compiled a list of ways, tools and tricks, thanks to which adaptation to a new school should be easy and painless.

Share with the new teacher objective information about your child: about his strengths and weaknesses, about hobbies, peculiarities in communication;
Free the child from household chores for the time of adaptation;
Do not temporarily overload the child with extracurricular life - with circles, sections;
Set yourself and the student in a positive mood;
Do not feel sorry for the child, but help him;
Trust your child, do not dismiss his problems;
Do not discuss, and most importantly, do not condemn in his presence the old and new schools, teachers, the school curriculum, if it has become more difficult for the student to study;
Allow your son or daughter to invite new classmates to visit, help them find friends;
Take time to have a meaningful conversation with your child. Let him tell everything that happens in the new class;
Be a friend for him, hope and support, give him enough attention, talk more often about your love for him;
If necessary, contact a child psychologist.

It is more difficult for children than us - adults - to correctly assess their capabilities and accept their own mistakes. Help your students move to a new school, remaining themselves, a sincere and unique child!

Let the words of the teacher "And this is our new student!" will become for him the beginning of an interesting stage in his childhood life.

Dear Readers! Has your child had to change schools? How was the adaptation period? What problems are you facing? We are waiting for your answers in the comments!

The child's brain and psyche are at a developmental stage: during this period, a large amount of information comes in, skills are formed, knowledge and experience are acquired. That is why children need stability more acutely than adults. For example, it is enough to remember how the kid asks every evening to tell the same fairy tale and constantly corrects if the parent has deviated even a little from the original version.

Such behavior - protective mechanism of the child's psyche, which seeks to get a portion of something familiar at least at the end of the day. Because of this feature, a change in school or other team can become truly painful for a child. How to prevent this? In this article, we'll talk about how to act in a similar situation.

Why is changing the team dangerous?

The transition to a new school or section inevitably entails a radical change in the situation: a new building, a different group of peers and teachers, the absence of old friends. This causes discomfort even in adults, and in children it increases many times over due to the features already mentioned. If the child does not understand or rejects the need to move to another educational institution, this can lead to:

isolation, sometimes to complete withdrawal "into oneself", if a boy or girl is prone to introversion;
aggression and accusations towards parents;
falling academic performance;
apathy, loss of appetite, deterioration of well-being and even frequent and prolonged illnesses (psychosomatic mechanisms are triggered, that is, dissatisfaction at the psychological level entails real bodily disorders);
strong depression or, on the contrary, excessive and unnatural gaiety;
bad behavior, ignoring previously established rules (doing homework, returning from a walk at a certain time, housework, etc.).

The situation is most acutely experienced by young children and adolescents, since during these periods the psyche is in a state of transition to a new level of development and is especially unstable. In some cases, obvious manifestations may be absent, but the observant parent will be noticeable in reducing the general background of the child's mood, some understatement in his conversation.

To reduce stress levels for children from the change of school and team, it is necessary to prepare them well for this and show patience.

Parent actions

First of all, think about whether it is really necessary to change the section or go to a new school. If the reason is the lack of "elite" of the previous educational institution or dissatisfaction with the work of one of the teachers, it is worth looking for another way out of their situation. Of course, only if the child himself likes everything.

If, for objective reasons, a change in the team cannot be avoided, the following should be done:

Explain to the child why and why it is necessary

Talk to him and gently and, most importantly, honestly tell about the reasons forcing you to do this. This should be done even if the children are still very young: it is just that in this situation it is worth paying a little more attention to the wording. Begin this preparation early so that the child has time to get used to the thought of changing the team.

It is important to mention this as a settled matter: this will avoid a situation where he cherishes the hope that such a need will disappear to the last, and then feels frustrated when it does happen.

Share your own feelings

Do not hesitate to share your experiences with the children, note that the current situation is unpleasant for you, but you must go through it. This will allow the child to understand that transferring him to a new place is not just your whim. In addition, talking frankly about feelings will help you bond and face challenges together.

Offer your help and support

However, in this matter, it is also important not to overdo it: for example, you should not look for friends for the boy and be a mediator when he meets his peers. This would rather add awkwardness to his position. Such steps should be taken only after consultation with the children themselves.

Find positive points

Try to look at the situation yourself from a different angle and share it with your child. You can engage in a joint search for the merits of moving to another team: expanding the circle of acquaintances; a good friend who visits the same House of Creativity; a shorter way to school and freeing up time for more important and interesting things; the proximity of the new school to the cinema, where you can drop in after class, etc.

Do not interfere with communication with old friends

It is very important for children to keep in touch with good old acquaintances. Of course, over time, friends will be found in a new place, but this will not happen right away. Most likely, at first, the child will feel very uncomfortable. Especially if the new team with its connections has been formed for a long time.

It is recommended to allocate funds for phone calls and even travel if friends stayed in another city. This will show the child that the parents do not want to deprive him of his previous acquaintances at all and care about his well-being in every sense.

Changing school and team is almost always stressful, both for children and adults. However, joint efforts, patience and understanding can make this situation painless and even enjoyable, as it will allow parents to see new horizons and even closer to their child.

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