Confidence coaching for adults. Self-confidence training: tell yourself: “I can!” and believe it

Class:

Mindfulness can be done in different ways. It is necessary to develop memory, attention, thinking and other mental functions, but this is hardly the main thing in the development of a person. A thinker with a good memory is sometimes helpless before rudeness. It is more important to prepare a person for various everyday situations: the ability to be different, flexible, purposeful and strong, to educate the inner person - the one who uses all these functions.

“If you caught a fish for your son, you fed him for today. If you taught your son how to fish, you have fed him for a lifetime,” says wisdom. A good psychologist will help a person in his mental suffering, but not every educator is able to teach how to maintain mental health. There are people who know how to survive everywhere and be happy in almost any situation. If a person loves himself, the world, people, if he is internally free and filled with energy, knows what he lives for, he will solve all his problems himself.

“A donkey can be led to the river, but not a single shaitan will make him drink,” says the proverb. If a person does not want to take care of his soul himself, no educational programs will be effective.

Working with teenagers in the “Psychology” section, I pursued the goal - to teach them the elementary skills of theoretical and practical psychology in order to interest young people in further work on themselves, deeper and more meaningful.

The classes were attended by students of secondary schools, lyceums and colleges in the city of Berezniki from 13 to 16 years old.

During the work of the section, a request was received to conduct group training work with adolescents attending these classes. To determine the direction of work, the future members of the group (consisting of 10 people) were asked the question: “What would you like to change in yourself? What would you like to learn?”. Further, a general list of topics for future work was compiled: the need to know oneself, increase self-confidence, and learn to positively resolve conflict situations. As a result, the name of the training was formulated: “Development of a sense of self-confidence”, the main purpose of which is to increase self-confidence.

Adolescence is a very favorable time for such work. This is due, on the one hand, to an increase in their interest in themselves, in their abilities, and on the other hand, with the openness of adolescents during this period to help from adults in overcoming difficulties, problems, and making decisions.

The training “Development of a sense of self-confidence” is aimed at solving the following tasks:

1. Provide participants with the means of self-knowledge (self-observation, reflection, etc.).
2. Develop the skills necessary for confident behavior.
3. Develop the skills needed to deal positively with conflict situations.

The training program is designed for 1 preliminary meeting (to determine the direction of work) and 3 meetings of 4 - 4.5 hours each.

In the development of the training for the teacher-psychologist of the Central Children's and Youth School of Science and Technology Shirshova S.A. psychologists - assistants took part: Leonova O.V., Stepanova Yu.S.

When compiling the training program, the literature was used, the list of which is attached.

Program Structure

Theme: "I am in my own eyes and in the eyes of others."

The goal is to get to know the group and yourself.

1. Getting to know the group.
2. Enter group rules.
3. Provide means of self-knowledge.
4. Strengthen self-esteem.
5. Learn the elements of relaxation.

Theme: “I am among others”.

The goal is to learn how to correctly express one's feelings and adequately perceive the behavior of another.

1. Create a comfortable climate for the free expression of feelings.
2. Promote self-awareness.
3. Encourage participants to become aware of their different traits.
4. Working with feelings.
5. Develop the skills and abilities necessary for confident behavior.

Topic: “We are very different and this is why we are interesting to each other.”

The goal is to increase confidence in the field of interpersonal communication

1. Learn to understand each other.
2. To promote awareness of problems in relationships with people.
3. Develop the skills and abilities necessary to positively overcome conflict situations.
4. Completion of the group.

1. Acquaintance.

Facilitator: “We will start by having everyone in a circle say their name and say a few words about themselves. Before that, I suggest that each of you take a badge and write your name on it. It doesn't have to be your real name, you can call yourself something else. If you decide to take a different name, then, introducing yourself, say the real one, and then try to say why you decided to change it. Maybe those names that were taken for today will not be needed later, but if necessary, everyone can take their plate and, for example, tell something about themselves under a different name. Getting started".

This takes a maximum of 30 minutes.

2. Preliminary stage.

To obtain more complete information about the group members, tasks are offered that reveal the problems of clients' uncertainty.

Moderator: Now, please, draw the feeling that interferes with you during communication, which is not pleasant for you, because of which you feel insecure. Write the name of this feeling at the top.

This is given a maximum of 15 minutes.

Host: And now, draw the feeling with which you cope with the feeling that you wrote in the first drawing, with which you are pleased and interested in communicating. Also write the name of this feeling at the top.

This is also given a maximum of 15 minutes.

Leading: When you finish drawing, take the first sheet where the feeling that interferes with your communication is drawn and written, and write 5-10 adjectives to the written word at the back of the sheet to explain it. Do the same with the second sheet, on which a pleasant feeling is drawn and written.

This takes a maximum of 20 minutes.

Facilitator: The discussion of these drawings will take place in one of the following lessons.

3. Introduction of rules.

“Presenter”: Now you will be offered the rules of conduct in the group, which apply to both group members and leaders. After each paragraph, I ask you to vote for the adoption (non-acceptance) of this rule.

A maximum of 20 minutes is allotted for discussion of the rules. When the rules are accepted, the leader takes out a sheet with a large inscription of these rules, which after that always lie in the middle of the circle. A promise is made to abide by the rules. The facilitator says the word “I promise”, the group members do the same.

GROUP RULES: “Here and now”; “Everyone has the right to say no; sincerity and openness; Principle I; Non-judgmental judgments; Activity; Confidentiality.

4. Exercise 1.

Meditation-Visualization “ The ship on which I am sailing.

Approximately 1 hour - 1 hour 20 minutes is allotted for this exercise.

Host: And now draw what you saw and what you want. Maybe it will be your ship, maybe just the sea, or maybe the captain or something else that only you saw.

You have a maximum of 20 minutes to draw.

When discussing the effects of the exercise, in addition to reflecting on the state, it is good to get answers to the questions given on pages 211-212.

Host: And now, in a circle, say in a nutshell: who is feeling like? This concludes the first day, see you tomorrow. (This is said 15 minutes before the end of class.)

Day 2

1. Introduction.

Moderator: Good afternoon, I am very glad to see you all. I hope that your last night and today went well. In order to better understand your condition, I will ask all the participants in the circle to tell you what interesting things happened to you during this time.

Host: In ordinary life, people are often content with superficial, shallow contacts with each other, not trying to see what the other feels and experiences. Now you will do an exercise in order to understand what is at stake.

2. Exercise 1. “Eye to eye”.

This exercise is aimed at establishing a deeper and more trusting contact between group members. After conducting this exercise, the facilitator asks the guys about the feelings experienced during the exercise. Who had a hard time making eye contact and why?

A maximum of 20-30 minutes is given for discussion of these questions. A more detailed discussion occurs after the Self-portrait exercise.

3. Exercise 2. “Brownian motion”.

Before doing the third exercise, it is necessary to warm up the group members more strongly. This exercise is used for this.

4. Exercise 3. "Theatre of Touch".

During the entire exercise, the leader moves from pair to pair, helping and guiding the siter, and helping the person lying down to relax. After 25 minutes, the music turns off. And the couples are invited to switch places.

The exercise is silent and there is no discussion afterwards. The time allotted for this exercise should not exceed 50 minutes, i.e. a maximum of 25 minutes is allotted for each lying participant. Instructions for the next exercise are given when the participant, lying on the floor, has just opened his eyes.

5. Exercise 4. “Self-portrait”.

The exercise is aimed at exploring ideas about oneself.

Now take a blank sheet of paper and draw your portrait on it. It can be a portrait of yourself during the “Theater of Touch” exercise (how you saw yourself), or it can be your portrait in everyday life or some other portrait of yourself in your imagination. We draw with the condition not to look and not see the drawings of other members of the group. When you finish painting self-portraits, give us personally.

Mandatory in this exercise is the silence of the group members both when they sit down and when they draw. During this exercise, quiet, calm music should be played.

The exercise is carried out for a maximum of 15 minutes. In order for all the conditions of this exercise to be met, it is necessary to seat all members of the group in different corners of the occupied premises. In extreme cases, put them back to each other. When the drawings are finished and collected, everyone is seated in their places.

Leading: Now I will move the drawing up one by one so that everyone present can answer questions together. In this case, the name of the "artist" will not be named, so that only he alone will know that we are talking about his portrait. At the end of the discussion of each drawing, the “artist”, if he wishes, can give his name.

Impressions about the previous exercises and questions are expressed in the final part of Day 2 or when discussing the drawings. If necessary, elements of psychotherapy are carried out.

15 minutes before the end of work, it is necessary to conduct a “farewell ritual”, which includes: a survey of all group members in a circle about their well-being and mood, as well as farewell.

Day 3

While the participants are seated in a circle, the leader lays out the rules of the group in its center so that the guys gradually get involved in the work.

1. Introduction.

Moderator: Good afternoon, I am very glad to see you all. I hope that your last night and today went well. In order to better understand your condition, I will ask all the participants in the circle to tell you what interesting things happened to you during this time.

The discussion takes place with the inclusion of elements of psychotherapy, and takes a maximum of 45 minutes.

Moderator: There are many types of communication that you all know about. But I would like to talk about some of them, four to be exact. Four types of communication to avoid, which in the end always lead interlocutors to a dead end. We are talking about roles here: aggressive, conciliatory, indirect attack, evasion - these are the roles that people use to solve any problems in communication. Generally speaking, one should not use bad examples to show people what they should not do. But this game is an exception to the rule. The exception is that we will lose the situation in a circle, i.e. Let's “pass” through ourselves the mistakes that were mentioned earlier in order to understand them properly and use the conclusions drawn in everyday practice. In this game, you will experience in your own skin that each of these four types of communication never leads to a good mood and cannot lead to a solution to your problems. And when you later find yourself in one of the four roles associated with such communication, you suddenly become aware of it. Only such awareness of the situation in subsequent practice can help you avoid negative, erroneous actions.

2. Exercise 1. “Four types of communication”.

This exercise is aimed at: understanding problems in relations with people; on the development of skills and abilities necessary for the positive overcoming of conflict situations.

The time allotted for this game should not take more than 1 hour, i.е. for each circle for 15 minutes. The discussion takes approximately 30 to 45 minutes.

It is better to distribute this material to the guys participating in the game in such a way that everyone pulls out a piece of paper without looking.

3. Discussion of the drawings.

After playing Roles, when everyone calms down, it is necessary to move smoothly to the fact that we are also different in life: with good features and bad ones, i.e. with the ones we like and the ones we don't like. Here it is necessary to distribute to the participants of the circle the drawings made by them in the first lesson and remind them that one of them has their positive qualities, the other negative.

So, you have drawings in front of you that depict your feelings: on one sheet, the one that interferes with you during communication, on the other, which helps you.

This discussion aims to improve understanding of each other through a deeper understanding of ourselves.

All members of the group should take part in the discussion of the drawings, if necessary, elements of psychotherapy are applied in this procedure.

A maximum of 1 hour - 1 hour 30 minutes is given for discussion.

4. Exercise 2. "Tails".

This exercise is aimed at identifying unresolved problems, unexpressed feelings and thoughts of the participants, i.e. to identify important "tails" of the group history and their elaboration.

Answers to questions are discussed here. This exercise takes a maximum of 30 minutes.

Now, please take a couple of minutes to think about the following: what is the most important experience that you have gained in this group that will help you better cope with the difficulties of everyday life? Please write it down on a piece of paper.

After writing on the sheets in a circle, at the request of the participants, the answers are read out. This task takes a maximum of 10 minutes.

5. The final stage of work.

At this stage, our work is completed and we invite you to say goodbye to each other. To do this, please stand up. And now, when the music starts, silently, only with your eyes and body, say goodbye to each other, and thank you.

This takes 10 minutes. After that, the music is turned off.

And now, please stand in a circle and hold hands. And now let's say goodbye all together, with the whole group. Let's shout as loudly as possible: "Goodbye."

After that, 5-10 minutes are given for a free farewell of the participants.

In conclusion, I would like to emphasize once again that the proposed training is aimed at supporting the following manifestations in participants: more positive thoughts and feelings about themselves; sympathy for oneself; the ability to treat yourself with humor; feelings of pride in oneself as a person; better understanding of one's own strengths and weaknesses.

This work is necessary to ensure more effective interaction of adolescents in everyday life and for the successful solution of their daily tasks.

The positive result of this training is that teenagers got to know themselves better, their strengths, they managed to develop self-esteem, they learned to overcome uncertainty, fear, increased anxiety in various situations, they also learned to most successfully and fully realize themselves in behavior and activities, to assert their rights and their own value, not only without infringing on the rights and values ​​of other people, but also contributing to their increase.

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Timofeeva Elena Mikhailovna
Position: educational psychologist
Educational institution: GOBU MO CSPMS-assistance Support service for foster families in Kirovsk
Locality: Murmansk region, Kirovsk
Material name: methodical development
Topic: Psychological workshop for teenagers "Six steps to self-confidence"
Publication date: 09.03.2016
Chapter: secondary vocational

Psychological workshop for teenagers.

"Six Steps to Self-Confidence"

Timofeeva E.M., teacher-psychologist

Target:
the formation of a sense of self-confidence, the removal of emotional stress.
Structure.
1. Greeting. 2. Test for teenagers E.M. Alexandrovskaya. 3. Workshop: "Who is an insecure person?" 4. Reflection.
Course of the training

1. Greetings.

2. Test for teenagers E.M. Alexandrovskaya.
I suggest doing a little test first.
3. Workshop: "Who is an insecure person?"

A person can only suffer from self-doubt. It's oppressive

an overwhelming feeling destroys families, relationships, business, dreams. Can

to even say - drives away luck and success. An insecure person is

a skeptic who does not believe in himself. He doesn't try, he doesn't take risks, he doesn't

builds. He doubts even if he is an insecure person. Takova

The essence of insecure people is doubt.

We cannot turn into other beings and become other people.

We cannot change our height, age, or DNA. But we can

learn how to use your resources effectively.

Let's consider: 1. the scheme of "an enchanted psychological circle" of an insecure person. Discussion. Output. Self-doubt leads to:  fear, mistakes, negative emotions and feelings  failures, failures, feelings of uselessness and hopelessness  increased negative emotions and a sense of “loser” So, what needs to be done to develop self-confidence. Let's consider in order. Step one. The ability to recognize your strengths and weaknesses.
Exercise "Forces of resistance"
Purpose: the ability to be aware of their weaknesses and strengths. Each participant will now think and name their strengths, and write down their weaknesses on a piece of paper (you can read it out if you wish). Step two. The ability to meet your needs is a priority component of self-confidence. Step Three Faith in yourself Do you agree with S. Rimposhe's thesis: “Walking changes a person. As you walk through life with your head held high, your consciousness changes.”
Exercise "Gait"
(we play different situations) Purpose: practicing confident and insecure behavior. Step Four Willingness to achieve your goal, the ability to act.
Exercise "My next plans"

Target:
the ability to set priorities for oneself.
Step Five In case of failure, readiness to correct, try to learn from your mistakes. Failure or defeat is already a success. From this you can conclude that you pursued false goals and perhaps in the future, you will be able to avoid troubles like this. Step six Feeling yourself the master of your own life or "love yourself." Let's make a diagram of the "enchanted psychological circle" of a confident person. Flip chart work. Smiling is one of the most reliable ways to relieve tension, anxiety and preserve energy and tone. At the same time, a smile is a sign that you are confident and ready to act.
Exercise "Smile"
Goal: relieve emotional stress, develop confident behavior. Please try to try on a variety of smiles: kind, mocking, cynical, open, “through your teeth”, haughty - the more the better. Discussion.
Reflection.

Attachment 1

Test for teenagers E.M. Alexandrovskaya

How do you look in the eyes of others.
Answer the following questions by choosing one of the suggested answers.
1.My favorite color:
A. Red or orange. B. White.
V. Black. G. Dark blue. D. Yellow. E. Brown. G. Green.
2. When I go to bed, I lie:
A. On the back. B. On the stomach. B. On the side. G. Covering his head with his hand. D. With a head under a blanket.
3. When I go to a party, I:
A. I put on bright clothes, go into the room with noise, in the hope that everyone will pay attention to me. B. I put on something special, but I go in quietly and hope to see someone I know. B. I put on clothes in which I hope not to attract special attention to myself.
4. I walk:
A. Big quick steps. B. Small, quick steps. B. Not very fast, head forward. G. Not very fast, head down. D. Slowly.
5. I usually feel at my best:
A. Right after I wake up. B. During the day. B. Late in the evening.
6. If something funny happens, then I:

A. I laugh loudly. B. Quietly laughing. B. I laugh to myself. G. I smile broadly.
7. When I talk to people, then:
A. I stand with crossed arms. B. I keep my hands in front of me. B. I keep one or both hands on my side. G. I touch the interlocutor. E. Touching my face or hair. E. I like to hold some object in my hands.
8. When I sit relaxed in a chair, I:
A. I hold my knees with my hands. B. I sit cross-legged. B. I stretch my legs in front of me. D. One leg under me. Question # a A B C D E F 1 6 2 7 3 5 1 4 2 6 4 2 — — — — 3 7 6 4 2 1 — — 4 6 4 7 2 2 — — 5 2 4 6 — — — — 6 6 4 3 5 2 — — 7 4 2 5 7 6 1 — 8 4 6 2 1 — — — Results

42 or more points
: people around you think that you are a self-confident person who likes to be in the spotlight. They admire you, sometimes they envy you, some of them are afraid.

Training sessions for teenagers

It's hard for you to make friends.
From 35 to 41 points:
people around you find you an interesting person with whom you can do a lot of fun. What you will do in the next moment cannot be predicted, so it is interesting with you. Many would like to see you as a leader.
27 to 34 points
: You are considered a very friendly person. They communicate with you because you are friendly and cheerful. Many would like to be friends with you.
20 to 26 points
: you are careful and practical. Friends trust you, you trust them.
Less than 20 points:
to others it seems that you are a modest and worried person. Some people think that you worry too much about the little things. In their opinion, you are very cautious: before you do anything, you will carefully consider everything.
Annex 2
Let's make a diagram of the "enchanted psychological circle" of a confident person. Belief in oneself Feeling the growth of one's own abilities, feeling oneself the master of one's own life
Willingness to achieve one's goal, ability to act In case of failure, readiness to correct, try, learn from one's mistakes. Self-doubt Experiences of being unable to cope with oneself and one’s
life, the formation of a “loser” Fear of making mistakes, negative feelings Failure of failure feelings of hopelessness and helplessness

To the education section

Brave people are not born, they become brave. The best school for cultivating courage and determination is a combat situation.

Courage and determination are brought up in the process of combat training. In addition, the fighter additionally trains in special physical exercises. These exercises are aimed at developing a fighter's faith in their own strength, at developing the habit of overcoming a sense of fear during certain physical exercises associated with difficulties and dangers.

Lesson on the topic: "Training for confident behavior"

Deep and long jumps, falling standing still and from a height (with support), moving at height, driving and other physical exercises, as well as many other sports, are a good way to develop courage and determination.

High jump and long jump

Jumps in depth and length should be performed simultaneously by the entire unit in groups of 3-5 people or in a row (one fighter after another).

Jumps should be performed at the command, sign or signal of the commander.

Jumps from cliffs in depth and length into sand and other soft soil from a squat and standing position (Fig. 170). Jumps from the roof of the building, from the window to produce from standing, squatting and hanging positions (Fig. 171).

Jumps from a place in length and depth to make through a stream, a hole with water.

Jumps over the horse in leg length apart from a distance of 10, 6, 4 and 2 steps.

Jumping from a tree from the positions of hanging and sitting should be performed at first according to two signs or signals. At the first sign or signal, the fighters prepare, at the second they jump, and then jump at one sign or signal.

Jumping from a cliff into the water should be done after examining the bottom of a stream or river. At the same time, it is necessary to ensure the observation of 1-2 best swimmers of the unit for jumps.

Movement at height, falls and jumps

Fall in place

Falling backwards, into the hands of a friend, without bending the body, straining the muscles of the legs, back and neck.

The fighters who catch the falling one put their hands under the shoulder blades, under the arms, and then, after good preparation, keep their hands folded "in the lock" and catch the falling one by the neck (Fig. 172).

Falls from a height

The fall of a scout from various heights into a tarp, which is held by 6-8 fighters, is made from various positions: sitting, standing, lying, facing in the direction of the fall and back in the direction of the fall (Fig. 173). Falls can be made from a board, which 4 fighters raise to the height of the belt, chest and outstretched arms from the roof of a barn, tree, etc. from a height of up to 3 m. A fighter making a fall must curl up, that is, remove his head and bend his legs .

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DON'T BE A SLAVE TO SELF-CONFIDENCE - IT DRIVES YOU FROM THE DISTANCE

Don't exaggerate your ability to change reality. Overestimation of one's own capabilities is equal to an inadequate assessment of the situation. A mistake in oneself is more likely to lead to defeat than a mistake in circumstances.

Interpretation of the law

A person on the path to success is much more vulnerable than one who is indifferent to honor and glory. And above all, this vulnerability is determined by the degree of confidence of an ambitious subject. There is no doubt that aspiring to success must certainly believe in his own strength, otherwise he will never achieve what he wants. But excessive self-confidence breeds spiritual blindness.

A person who does not doubt the success of what he undertakes, on the one hand, is worthy of admiration. Nothing singles out and uplifts like unshakable faith in oneself. When you have no doubt that you will succeed, you are ready to move mountains. But at the same time, you do not notice what is happening around. Meanwhile, these actions can be directed against you.

An overconfident person exalts his abilities. He exaggerates his own powers and, as a result, downplays those of his opponents. But even if he realistically assesses the opposing side, his chance of being the loser is quite large. The fact is that when we are too self-confident, we incorrectly calculate our own strengths and sometimes make unrealistic plans. It is not surprising that, if we do not fulfill one point, in the future we become a victim of the continuously working “snowball” principle, when one failure entails another, and that, in turn, causes the next one. As a result, it can be stated with certainty that the planned enterprise failed.

This is where the next point of the principle described above arises, when a person who still has the opportunity to correct what he has done, instead becomes a slave to his self-confidence. He begins to blame other people for his failures, to refer to circumstances, but he does not realize his real guilt, and therefore does not have the opportunity to correct mistakes. An incorrect assessment of one's capabilities and a misunderstanding of the current situation entails the search for truth where it does not exist and cannot exist. As a result, a sad picture arises, when good ideas that are close to becoming a reality are completely broken.

Another common mistake of a self-confident person is too specific plans. There is practically nothing strictly defined in life, because its image is very changeable.

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A person proposes, and, as you know, God himself disposes, therefore, when planning something, it is necessary to make allowances for the fact that everything can appear in a slightly different light than it seemed to us initially, and sometimes the situation develops in a completely opposite way. .

Despite this, the self-confident subject is unwilling to accept such a fact. He draws up a clear schedule of his victories and conquests, he paints everything point by point and starts the next one only after the previous one has been completed. Here a vicious circle arises, because the more victories a self-confident person manages to win, the more his main personal quality grows. When at least one point from the planned one fails, then the person is disappointed because all his plans have collapsed. It is clear that this is by no means conducive to success.

Image

A self-satisfied king who does not doubt his own greatness and excellence. He has no authority other than himself. He is the only ruler in his own world, unique in his kind, proud, taking credit for everything that is rightfully the achievement of completely different people. He is the king first of all in his mind, while his subordinates do not experience the most important feeling that servants should have in relation to their ruler - respect. And the latter is difficult to achieve when you rest on the laurels of your self-confidence.

Evidence of the law

A good historical example of overconfidence is any attempt at world domination. Whatever historical character tried to achieve such a goal, in the end, insidious plans turned out to be broken. And this happened despite the fact that he had all the prerequisites for achieving what he wanted, and the high level of organization of law enforcement agencies and the amount of material resources were not in doubt.

Leaders aspiring to world domination were overthrown precisely because they possessed excessive self-confidence. Their high potential, in which there is no doubt, and which, unfortunately, they directed to ignoble goals, most likely caused the failure of a carefully planned plan, since at some point self-confidence turns into a kind of dense veil that rises right before your eyes. person.

As a result, he may not see what is happening next to him. By the way, the pedestal on which a self-confident person erects himself is also one of the reasons for the inevitable failure. After all, sometimes some important events are not visible from a height, and from this the fall from the top of the social hierarchy is always the most rapid and painful.

Consider the story of Napoleon. It would seem that numerous victories in conquests were a solid and unshakable basis for achieving the goal - the conquest of world domination. Nevertheless, the result of his ambition was a staggering collapse of carefully thought out and tested plans.

The same thing, that is, the failure of the planned, was expected by another, no less famous historical figure - Adolf Hitler. His terrible plans, fortunately, failed, although they caused incalculable human suffering. By the way, regarding the suffering inflicted on our fatherland, human self-confidence is perhaps the main reason. At least it was she who caused the incredible scale of the harm done.

As we know, the Soviet leadership and, in particular, Stalin knew about the threat of an attack by the Nazi troops long before the official declaration of war. But the inaction of politicians at the most crucial moment for the country is a reliable historical fact. Excessive self-confidence in unshakable strength dimmed the eyes of the Soviet leadership, because of which precious time was lost, and a huge number of human destinies were crippled by the most terrible war in the history of mankind.

A leader, in any sense of the term, is unacceptable to be overconfident. Of course, he must believe in his own strength, plan for the possibility of victory, but at the same time allow for the possibility of losing. Very often the destructive effect of human self-confidence spreads to a large number of other people and becomes the cause of many disasters. From this we can conclude that excessive self-confidence often becomes the cause of social disasters that periodically shake our lives.

By the way, there are many other examples in history that can rightfully be considered positive. First of all, the personalities representing these examples are the supreme commanders, who won the sympathy of their descendants by remarkable deeds. These people, of course, were self-confident, but this confidence did not take perverted forms. They fully accepted the possibility of a miss - and therefore sought to do everything possible to prevent it. Such a remarkable historical figure is, of course, Alexander Vasilyevich Suvorov, a man who knew how to develop tactics and, at the same time, admit his own mistakes.

If you trace the history of a single state, you can easily see that in the chronological annals, historians describe with much greater sympathy those who felt confident in their own abilities, acted accurately and skillfully, but at the same time avoided excessive self-confidence, which is usually a consequence of glorification. own person. So it is in life: people who cause universal disposition and do not boast of their significance, whatever it may be, true or imaginary, invariably delight others and evoke sympathy.

Many politicians are characterized by excessive self-confidence. This quality must be present in abundance in the nature of officials and members of the government, because only confident people can reach conceivable heights. Those who do not have such qualities as perseverance and confidence are unlikely to achieve dominance, no matter what the meaning of this concept is.

However, one can say quite definitely about politicians: their excessive confidence is a negative quality. The power given to a person imposes on him a great responsibility, the significance of which in no case should be underestimated. Unfortunately, not all people understand this, and once in power, they often begin to abuse their position. This behavior is noticeable in many politicians, both past and present.

... The picture of so many state vanities in the destinies of various peoples teaches us not to be too proud of ourselves. So many names, so many victories and conquests buried in the captivity of oblivion, make ridiculous our hope to perpetuate our name by capturing some chicken coop, which became somehow known only after our fall, or by capturing a dozen horse warriors. The magnificent and proud celebrations in other states, the greatness and arrogance of so many rulers and courts will strengthen our eyesight and help us look, without squinting, at the brilliance of our own court and ruler ...

/Michel Montaigne/

The other side of the law

So, it became clear that excessive confidence is a sharply negative trait. However, its absence can hardly be called a favorable quality. This is because extremes are unacceptable in any area of ​​human life, and even more so in the one that concerns human destinies.

A person who is on the path to success must always realistically assess his capabilities, and any hesitation in one direction or another inevitably leads to collapse. It has already been said about the exaggeration of one's own strengths, however, even an underestimation leads to a result opposite to that desired. First of all, a person who does not believe in himself will simply not try to do something, and, as you know, whoever does nothing will have nothing. A person who strives for leadership, but at the same time downplays his own abilities, will never succeed. This fact is beyond doubt.

In the case when a person, fearing not to become overly self-confident, begins to consciously slow down his development, he will certainly begin to degrade. This will definitely happen, because it is simply impossible to constantly be at the same level of development. The flow of life is unstoppable, everything changes, and depending on changes in the environment, the one who is its inhabitant also changes. In other words, if a person does not develop for the better, then his development goes in the opposite direction, according to the principle of regression.

Self-confidence is what you should strive for. However, this concept and the concept of self-confidence are not at all the same thing. Self-confidence presupposes the presence of an unshakable sense of one's own significance and the complete elimination of shortcomings, and self-confidence does not exclude the possibility of a bad outcome, but at the same time focuses all the forces and possibilities on the destruction of this negativity.

Be that as it may, it is very easy to cross the line between confidence in one's own abilities and categorical self-confidence. A person who does not doubt his greatness is, in fact, pathetic, just like, in principle, the one who does not believe in the success of his own enterprise.

Parable

There was one king in the world who was always confident in his own abilities, and this was so pronounced that over time it became the subject of secret ridicule of courtiers and servants. People were amused by the short-sightedness of their sovereign, his desire to emphasize his importance, to stand out. He simply adored listening to praise addressed to him.

But most of all, the king was concerned about how he looked as a politician and statesman. He was very worried that the kingdom he ruled was not as big as he would have liked.

And then one day the king decided to go to war with the neighboring kingdom, then capture another one, then another and another, and thus increase his possessions and become a powerful ruler. However, he misjudged the strength of his kingdom, as a result of which he was immediately defeated. True, his self-confidence was not affected by this, because he still managed to win one small victory, conquering a principality that was so insignificant that it was not even on the map.

Exercises for training on self-esteem and self-confidence

Exercise "Ode about myself"

Take a sheet of paper. Calm down, relax, if necessary, look at yourself in the mirror. Write yourself a compliment. Praise yourself! Wish yourself good, health, success in business, work.

Love and everything else. The form of presentation is small sentences of 5-10 words in prose or verse. Write yourself a few. Choose from them the one you like the most. Beautifully rewrite, if possible - put in a frame and hang (place) in a conspicuous place. Read this ode aloud or mentally every morning. Feel how, while reading the ode, your mood and vitality rise, how you are filled with vitality, and the world around you becomes bright and joyful.

Exercise "Formula of self-love"

Remember the famous cartoon about a little gray donkey who is tired of being a donkey. And he became at first a butterfly, then, if I am not mistaken, a bird, then someone else ... until, finally, he realized that it would be better for himself and for all others if he remained a little gray donkey.

Therefore, I ask you, do not forget to go to the mirror every day, look into your eyes, smile and say: “I love you (and give my name) and accept you as you are, with all the advantages and disadvantages. I will not fight you, and there is absolutely no reason for me to defeat you. But my love will give me the opportunity to develop and improve, to enjoy life myself and bring joy to the lives of others.

Exercise "Become confident"

The transition from one state to another is accompanied by a corresponding rearrangement of the facial muscles. For example, a smile transmits nerve impulses to the emotional center of the brain. The result is a feeling of joy and relaxation.

Myself: Developing Self-Confidence and Responsibility

Try to smile and hold the smile for 10-15 seconds. Change the smile to a smirk - feel dissatisfied. Look angry - feel angry. Your face, voice, gestures, posture can evoke any feeling.

And if you are not confident in yourself, then constantly pretend to be a confident person. If you stoop - straighten up, control your voice - so that it does not tremble, do not fiddle with anything in your hands, do not draw - this is also a sign of anxiety, insecurity. You can say to yourself, “I need to be confident. I can't really become one, but I can control my posture, my voice, my face. I will look like a confident person.” And you will become a confident person.

Exercise "I'm 100% sure"

Purpose: to learn to be liberated and love yourself.

This exercise is good for training for women.

Material: small mirrors. If not, then the participants bring powder with a mirror.

Every woman at least once in her life was (or is) dissatisfied with her appearance (figure, face, hair ...)

During the training, participants stand in a circle. Further

We say compliments to each other (3 compliments each)

Each participant tells about herself to those present 3 qualities for which she must be loved. The last quality (be sure to touch on appearance) must be said in front of the mirror.

Bottom line: as a result of this exercise, ladies begin to love and appreciate themselves. If you regularly do this exercise at home in front of a mirror, the results in a short time are very good. Establishing relationships with a man, for those who are free - finds a soul mate. A woman begins to pay attention and thus her self-esteem grows.

Technique "Feelings of confidence"

Try to consciously evoke feelings that you associate with confidence. To do this, it is enough to remember and re-experience three situations in which you felt more confident than ever. As a rule, people say that in such cases they seem to grow wings behind their backs. It seems to a confident person that he suddenly grew up, that everyone around him is like-minded people. A rod appears inside, a person straightens his back, and, straightening his shoulders, looks directly into the eyes of others. There is a feeling that his coordination of movements is just great and he can easily perform the most difficult acrobatic pirouette.

Self-confidence exercise

Purpose: to form self-esteem, self-confidence, to contribute to the acquisition of experience in speaking in front of an audience, which in turn effectively affects the increase in self-confidence.

Required time: 30 minutes.

Procedure: A willing participant is called, he sits on a chair opposite the rest of the players. The essence of the game is as follows: the main participant must trust as much as he sees fit, reveal himself to the rest of the group. He needs to talk about himself. Whatever he sees fit.

The main participant can talk about his acquisitions during the training, about his own experiences, impressions, about how he felt in this group, in the classroom, what unpleasantly hurt his “I”, and what inspired him, etc.

About your abilities; plans for the future.

At the end of the story of the main participant, the rest ask him exciting, interesting questions related to the participant. After the speeches of all participants, a general discussion of the game.

Exercise "King and Queen"

Participants choose two people from their group to be king and queen. They sit down on a makeshift throne (preferably with an elevation). The task of the rest of the participants is to come up and greet the king and queen separately. The greeting can be in any form. "Monarchs" also welcome the participants.

Analysis: This is an exercise in discovering the "defenses" of the individual. Each of the participants, based on the game situation, must endure some humiliation - a bow to the king; and each in his own way will have to "defend himself" from this traumatic situation. It is analyzed who and how avoided this situation of subordination.

Exercise "Beautiful Women"

The participant is called. Host: After walking around the room, bring out all the women whom you consider beautiful for yourself, sit opposite them and look, admire them ... I have to ask the girls one very important question: “Did you know that you are beautiful?” - "No" - "So know it!" Thank the one who chose you, you can sit down in your seats.

Analysis: “Of the selected 1-2 people correspond to the standards of beauty that we have become accustomed to through television, films and magazine covers. But there are always those who are surprised that they were chosen. This exercise shows all the non-standard human preferences. This is a test of optimism. There is a person (girl) among us who, perhaps, considers himself unattractive. So I ask you to believe, in someone's eyes, he can be very beautiful.

For persuasiveness, you can ask one or two more people (preferably men) to make their choices.

Exercise "I am Alla Pugacheva"

The exercise is carried out in a circle. Each participant chooses for himself the role of a person who is significant for him and at the same time known to those present (Alla Pugacheva, the President of the United States, a fairy-tale character, a literary hero, etc.). Then he conducts a self-presentation (verbally or non-verbally: pronounces a phrase, shows a gesture that characterizes his hero). The rest of the participants try to guess the name of the "idol". After the exercise, a discussion is held, during which each participant verbalizes the feelings that arose during the presentation. This exercise helps to increase self-esteem and can be used to develop the skill of confident behavior.

Training "Increasing self-confidence"

Target: development of the skill of confident behavior, self-knowledge, self-improvement,recognition of one's undiscovered potential.

Training objectives:

expand your self-image;

to update and realize their strengths;

help group members distinguish confident behavior from insecure;

Materials: a small ball, A4 paper, a pen, pencils or felt-tip pens, calm relaxing music.

Time spending: 3 hours 10 minutes

Number of participants: 12

Course of the training program

Introduction : Self-confidence is a person's experience of his capabilities, both adequate to the tasks that he faces in life, and to those that he sets himself. Self-confidence in any kind of activity takes place when a person's self-esteem corresponds to his real capabilities. If self-esteem is higher (lower) than real capabilities, then self-confidence (self-doubt) takes place, respectively. Self-confidence can also become a stable personality trait.

Exercise 1 "Funny ball"

Target : warm-up, developing the ability to speak and listen to compliments.

Time: 5 minutes

Material: small size ball

Exercise progress: Let's start today with a game. Throwing this ball to each other in turn, we will talk about the unconditional merits, strengths of the one to whom the ball is thrown. We will be careful that everyone has the ball.

Exercise 2 "Steps"

Target : to help participants build adequate self-esteem.

Time: 7 minutes

Material: paper, pen, pencil

Exercise progress : Participants are asked to draw a ladder of 10 steps. Instructions are given: “Draw yourself on the step you think you are on right now.”

After everyone has drawn, the facilitator gives the key to this technique:

Step 1-4 - low self-esteem

Step 5-7 - self-esteem is adequate

8-10 step - self-esteem is too high

Questions for discussion:

1. Does this result correspond to your ideas about self-esteem? Why do you think so?

Exercise 3 "Great Master"

Target: actualization of the strengths of the individual.

Time: 10 minutes

Material: paper, pen, pencil

Exercise progress: I invite you to think about the "Great Master" of what you are and tell everyone about it. 2 minutes to think. Each participant in a circle begins his statement with the words “I am a great master ......”, for example, hiking, making coffee, and you need to convince other participants of this.

Questions for discussion:

Was it difficult or easy for you to remember and say in front of everyone what master you are?

What feelings arose during the task?

Exercise 4 "I am strong - I am weak"

Target : help group members distinguish confident behavior from insecure behavior, promote the development of self-confidence through role-playing.

Time : 15 minutes

materials : not required.

Exercise progress : Participants are divided into pairs and each stand opposite each other. The first person in the pair holds out their hand. The second participant in the pair tries to lower the partner's hand by pressing on it from above. The first participant in the pair should try to hold his hand, while saying loudly and decisively: "I am strong." Now we repeat the same thing, but the first participant in the pair says “I am weak”, pronouncing it with the appropriate intonation, i.e. quiet, sad. Try to change.

Questions for discussion:

When was it easier for you to hold your hand: in the first or in the second case?

Why do you think?

What feelings did you experience while doing this exercise?

What effect did the phrases you uttered “I am strong”, “I am weak” have on the performance of the task?

Exercise 5 "Drawing I"

Target : expand self-image, self-knowledge.

Time : 25 minutes

materials

Exercise progress : Taking pencils or felt-tip pens, paper, participants are located anywhere in the room. It is desirable that no one sit next to each other. On a piece of paper, they have to draw their own image in allegorical form as they imagine themselves. A certain amount of time is given for drawing. For example, after 10 minutes, after which one should not strictly demand the end of the drawing, each participant should be given the opportunity to finish his drawing in a calm atmosphere.

Instructions for participants: You can draw whatever you want. It can be a picture of nature, a still life, an abstraction, a fantasy world, an action-packed situation, something in the style of a rebus, in general, anything, but with what you associate, connect, explain, compare yourself, your state of life, your nature.

Questions for discussion:

What qualities does this person have?

Is he a confident person or vice versa?

When they spoke about your drawing, what feelings did you experience?

Does everything said about this picture match your qualities?

Exercise 6 "Motto"

Target: make participants aware of their individuality and goals in life.

Time: 15 minutes

Materials: paper, pens

Exercise progress: Leading. There was a custom in the old days - to depict the family coat of arms and motto on the castle gates, on the knight's shield, i.e. a short sentence expressing the guiding idea or purpose of the owner's activity. We will not draw a coat of arms, but let's think about the motto. Each member of the group must formulate his own motto, which reflects his life credo, attitude towards the world as a whole and towards himself. 5 minutes are given to formulate the motto (but participants should not be rushed). Then you will read your mottos one by one and, if necessary, give the necessary explanations.

The main thing in this exercise is the idea and emancipation of self-expression. During the discussion, everyone has the right to ask each other questions and comment on their mottos.

Questions for discussion:

1. What feelings arose when compiling the motto?

2. Why was the task useful?

3. Will you use this motto in your life?

Exercise 7 "Who am I?"

Target : promote rapprochement of the group, introspection.

Time : 15 minutes

materials : paper, pens.

Exercise progress: Participants are invited to think about the question “Who am I?”, Then write numbers from 1 to 10 on a piece of paper, opposite each number you need to write your characteristics, traits, interests, which perhaps none of those present can guess. Then everyone hands over their paper to the host, the papers are shuffled and everyone chooses a paper. The characteristics are read aloud and the participants must guess who these traits belong to.

Issues for discussion:

What feelings did you experience while doing the exercise?

Was it easy for you to do it?

Was it difficult for any of you to guess who the characteristics belong to?

In your opinion, did all of the listed characteristics of a person suit this participant?

Exercise 8 "Intonation"

Target : Closing correction.

Time: 15 minutes

Materials: paper

Exercise progress: On small pieces of paper, participants write the name of any feeling, emotion. Then the sheets are collected, shuffled and distributed again. Now the group decides which phrase, line from the verse to take as the basis for further actions. After that, the participants take turns pronouncing this phrase with an intonation corresponding to the feeling that they have written down on a piece of paper. The rest of the group guesses with what intonation the phrase was uttered.

Questions for discussion:

1. Was there any embarrassment when pronouncing the phrase in such an unusual way?

2. How did the exercise evoke feelings?

Exercise 9 "Additional drawing"

Target : to reveal a tendency to insecurity.

Time : 20 minutes

materials : pencils or felt-tip pens, A4 paper.

Procedure : The pattern is sent around. One of the participants begins to draw, the other continues, adding something, and so on in a circle.

The drawing can be done with felt-tip pens, pencils ... The drawing is done on one sheet because. The theme is to increase confidence. With each subsequent addition, the space will decrease, which can confuse an insecure person, because. it will "disturb" the other's drawing.

When analyzing the resulting drawing, the artistic level of its implementation is not taken into account. We are talking, first of all, about the feelings of the subjects tested by the subject when adding someone else's drawing, the lack of a place where you can draw something of your own, the fear of spoiling what has already been drawn ...

Questions:

Did you complete the drawing?

If not, why not?

Is that exactly what you would like to add?

If not, why not?

What exactly did you picture?

Exercise 10 "I am a star"

Target : developing skills of confident behavior.

Time : 20 minutes

materials : not required.

Procedure : The exercise is carried out in a circle. Each participant chooses for himself the role of a star that is significant for him and at the same time known to those present (Alla Pugacheva, president, fairy-tale character, literary hero, etc.). Then he conducts a self-presentation (verbally or non-verbally: he says a phrase or shows some gesture that characterizes his star). The rest of the participants try to guess the name of the "idol".

Questions:

Was it difficult for you to choose the role of a significant and famous star for yourself?

What is similar between you and the chosen star?

What feelings did you have during the presentation?

Did you try to show the star you chose in a way that was understandable to others?

Where was it easier to show or guess?

Exercise 11 "Just believe in yourself"

Target: relaxation, self-knowledge, raising self-confidence.

Time: 15 minutes

Materials: calm, relaxing music

Exercise progress : It is suggested to sit comfortably, close your eyes and relax. When everyone sat down, calmed down, the music starts to sound and the host says his words: Close your eyes and imagine that you are in a large room with two mirrors on opposite walls. In one of them you see your reflection. Your appearance, facial expression, posture - everything speaks of an extreme degree of insecurity. You hear how timidly and quietly you pronounce the words, and your inner voice constantly repeats: “I am the worst of all!” Try to completely merge with your reflection in the mirror and feel completely immersed in the swamp of uncertainty. With each inhalation and exhalation, increase the sensations of fear, anxiety, suspiciousness. And then slowly "exit" the mirror and note how your image becomes more and more dimmer and, finally, goes out completely. You will never return to it.

Slowly turn around and look at your reflection in another mirror. You are a confident person! Memory suggests three bright events in your life when you were "on horseback". Remember the sounds, images, smells that accompanied your feeling of confidence then. Your inner voice broke out: “I believe in myself! I'm confident!" The red bar of your confidence rises on the thermometer scale and with each inhalation and exhalation you approach the centigrade mark. What is the color of your confidence? Fill yourself with it. Create a cloud of confidence around you and surround your body with it. Add music of confidence, smells. Try to see the symbols, the image of your confidence and merge with it. Imagine a sweeping inscription in gilded letters on basalt: “I am confident!”. Imagine a huge hall. You stand on the stage, and tens of thousands of people applaud you. At the end, take a deep breath and open your eyes..

Questions for discussion:

1. What feelings did you have after imagining yourself confident?

2. The image of which person presented himself better? Confident or vice versa?

Reflection

Target: summarizing the training, feedback

Time: 15 minutes

Materials: not required

Exercise progress: The group members are invited to close their eyes and imagine that the group session is over. You are going home.Think about what you didn't say to the group but would like to say. What psychological qualities did you manifest while participating in the training? What feelings did you experience? What did you learn about yourself, about the group? How will you use this knowledge? What have you learned? How will this be useful in the future? What was important? What are you thinking about? What happened to you? What needs to be developed for the future? After a few minutes, it is proposed to open your eyes and answer any question from all voiced.

Thank you very much for coming to the training, I hope that it will not pass without a trace in your life, that something will be useful to you and that you have thought about something and will work in this direction. Goodbye.

Many articles, magazines, books on psychology have been written on how to raise self-esteem and self-confidence. But still, many novice entrepreneurs (and not only) are concerned about this issue. Therefore, at the request of our website readers, we decided to write this detailed article about self-esteem without water and in fact. So let's go!

The old misconceptions that in order to be happy you need to:

• believe and obey your parents;
• dance around the fire and worship the gods;
• build communism;
• and so on and in the same spirit (underline as appropriate).

With the development of psychological science, only one thing becomes obvious - only man himself can make himself happy except, of course, for force majeure.

So, from this article you will learn:

1. What is self-esteem and what functions does it have, etc.;
2. How to love yourself and increase your self-esteem - advice from psychologists and experts;
3. How to become self-confident and satisfied with your life;
4. Reasons for low self-esteem, tests, videos, etc.

The article tells how to increase self-esteem, what ways to raise it exist, why people have low self-esteem, etc.

The correctness of self-assessment is a rather complicated thing. This is the one ship's waterline on the high seas, which should not nor rise above, nor go below. Before embarking on a long voyage, it is necessary to understand that nothing will come of it without adequate self-esteem. How does this happen?

The human subconscious builds itself based on many factors. from the first minutes of life.

In order to understand the mechanism of self-esteem formation, it is necessary to understand that:

• one is never alone- he is a herd animal and must be in society (sociopaths are a deviation, a disease);
• every word and deed of others in relation to the individual automatically influences it, forcing one way or another to evaluate oneself;
• for the most part people and builds an opinion about himself, perceiving himself "through the eyes of others", not having the opportunity and desire to analyze their actions on their own and give them a final assessment.

As a result, it turns out that self-esteem – this combined information about all self-assessments of your personality or on the basis of another opinion, which forms your idea of ​​\u200b\u200btheir qualities and shortcomings.

This can also be stated in another way: self-esteem – this is the definition of one's place in the ranking of all people in the world, which is based on one's own and imposed priorities. It looks different for every person.

For example, a blonde who has not read the primer in her life may have high self-esteem, since her society tells her only positive information about her personality, her virtues coincide with those that are in use among her environment and she looks like from her society demands it. That is, it is surrounded on all sides positive and a small share negative she just doesn't notice/ignores.

On the other hand maybe yesterday's student engineer, who graduated from the university with an average, got a job and, out of fright, already made a couple of minor mistakes, which were treated quite loyally.

It will seem to him that, compared with more experienced colleagues, he is a nonentity, he will never succeed. Here, mom also says that he is a mediocre son, because he forgot to take out the trash in the morning, dad assures that instead of higher education, he just had to go to the mine, because there “normal money is paid, and you don’t need to think with a stupid head.” To all this is added the standard appearance and the dream of the girls from the TV.

All this a typical example of low self-esteem that is shaped by the environment. The young man himself has nothing to do with it - rather, he simply moves with the flow that forms his environment.

Without changing anything in his life, he is unlikely to achieve anything in it.

If you do not pull yourself together, he will face such problems:

• failures at work due to constant nervous tension and self-flagellation from the series “I won’t succeed, others will do it better”;
• lack of career growth due to fear of responsibility, thoughts similar to “I can’t do it, it’s not for me, I’m not capable of it”;
• constant fear of losing a job, a feeling of fatigue, depression, possibly alcoholism, the desire to escape reality into an illusory comfortable world;
• the impossibility of adequate relationships with girls, since stiffness and complexes will manifest themselves here too, there will be thoughts from the series “she is too beautiful, I don’t earn so much, I’m ugly, I don’t deserve her.”

This is not a complete list of those trouble And life problems that are born from poor self-esteem, the inability to work with it.

At an older age, it may be problems with raising children, communicating with them. There may also be significant troubles with self-realization, the desire to open your own business and all in the same spirit.

The young man mentioned is just an example, everyone has a reason to think badly about themselves - no one is perfect. It is important to adequately assess your personality as a whole and build connections with the outside world from this.

It must also be understood that it is not only money And career.

A person with low self-esteem cannot initially be happy for the following reasons:

• constant fear;
• persistent nervous tension;
• periodic depression;
• aggravated stress when exposed to adverse factors;
• impossibility of self-realization;
• constant stiffness, up to physical movements;
• lack of self-righteousness;
• compliance with the outside world, weakness of character;
• inability to start something new;
• closed, shy speech;
• constant self-digging.

All these are signs that you do not have happy future, because no one will come and change your life by magic.

In order to look confidently into the future, you need to work on yourself and not be afraid to change. Without this, everything will remain in place, and dreams will turn into collapse.

Basic functions of self-assessment

Exists three main functions that make adequate self-assessment so necessary:

• Protective - solid self-esteem will allow you to be confident in what you think and do, it ensures the stability of your opinion about yourself, and therefore an even emotional background, less exposure to stress;
• Regulatory - helps to make the most correct and timely choice regarding your personality;
• Developing - the correct assessment of one's personality gives a strong impetus to its development.

The situation is considered ideal when a person absolutely independently evaluates his qualities and capabilities and adequately understands what he is good at and what he is bad at. From this he plans his life - what he will do, what he will study, and so on. Of course, such impossible .

From early childhood to late old age, everything around is trying to influence us, our self-esteem. At the very beginning, we are characterized parents, after peers And friends, then add to this teachers And professors, colleagues, chiefs etc.

As a result, we do not even evaluate ourselves, but compare the opinion of others about ourselves with the ideals imposed by society. Where can we get to adequate self-esteem, some of the information received does not apply to reality at all!

But only by correctly evaluating your abilities, you can understand in which direction you need to develop and what you are like in general.

In this situation, bad any deviation. An inflated opinion of yourself will lead to many painful mistakes in life, although it is more rare. Much more common low self-esteem which destroys people's lives, does not allow to open up, to show the maximum of their capabilities. The neglected form of this problem leads to an inferiority complex, and hence the destruction of the personality.

Essentially, this one of the main reasons that a person cannot earn money. Not confident in himself, he rushes from corner to corner, afraid to take a step that is risky in his opinion or the thoughts of those around him, eventually despairs and continues to live from one meager salary to another.

Moreover, in such cases, one cannot open one’s own business, because the qualities necessary for this are: activity, readiness to risk And accept decisions are taken from true, adequate self-esteem.

Lack of self-confidence takes the energy of the individual, fetters his actions, which leads to a terrible state when a person is only able to think or dream about action, and not resolutely take up the realization of his desires.

2. How to love yourself and what will happen if this is not done 💋

love yourself does not mean become narcissistic. In fact, it has to do with self-esteem. Only the person who is able to evaluate himself, highlight all his advantages and disadvantages, can really honestly and fairly treat his personality.

How to learn to love yourself and increase self-esteem for a woman and a man

So, how to love yourself and increase self-esteem?

Having low self-esteem, you will only see everything negative in yourself, which of course will not lead to anything good.

Justified self-love based on your virtues and constant work above the shortcomings there is a guarantee that others will treat you well.

It's really hard to love someone who do not appreciate And does not respect myself. It's more of a pity than anything else. Being competitive in business or choosing a spouse or many other things is only possible if you have high self-esteem And right attitude towards yourself . repressed And downtrodden personality cannot be realized in the modern world.

It is a big mistake to constantly look for flaws in yourself. The more you do this, the more difficult it will be for you to make any, even the most insignificant decision.

self-criticism- this is excellent, but it must be harmoniously balanced with praise, forgiveness and respect for one's own personality.

Our psyche has enough specific defense mechanisms against pain, discomfort And various threats. Our consciousness is only the visible part of a huge iceberg, which hides the subconscious. It is also not homogeneous and consists of various personalities "coexisting in one body." Each of them affects the consciousness, the body constantly expressing its desires and needs.

Suppressing the natural desire to be happy, developing an inferiority complex, you make it possible to crawl out the most dark corners of your psyche.

This can lead to various psychological deviations of varying severity. A calm person will be doomed to eternal depression(read the article - ""), and in a sensitive nature, signs of schizophrenia, various manias and other extremely serious diseases. Of course, these are very rare cases, but the risk exists.

3. How to determine that you have low self-esteem?

Here is a list of signs by which you can determine whether a person has low self-esteem:

• a large amount of criticism addressed to you, both on the case and out of the blue;
• dissatisfaction with any of their actions and results;
• too strong a reaction to extraneous criticism;
• a painful reaction to an opinion expressed about oneself, even a positive one;
• fear of doing something wrong;
• indecision, it takes a long time to think before doing anything;
• unhealthy jealousy;
• strong envy, especially when others have achieved something;
• an obsessive desire to please, literally creep in front of others;
• hatred of one's environment, unreasonable anger at others;
• constant excuses;
• the desire to protect yourself from everything in the world;
• enduring pessimism;
• lots of negativity all over the place.

Low self-esteem makes a person suffer much more from failure. Any problem is temporary, especially if you start solving it in time.

If a person is insecure, then she will aggravate the trouble until she becomes insoluble, eventually drop his hands and leave everything on gravity that will bring problems in all areas of life.

Such an approach on an ongoing basis will aggravate self-esteem, make you feel worthless, as a result hate yourself.

Society is very sensitive to this, and as soon as your negative attitude towards yourself becomes noticeable, others will begin to treat you worse. The further, the more that eventually ends in alienation and reclusion, a deeply unhappy existence, lack of money and personal life, psycho-emotional disorders.

There is an absolute pattern: respect yourself and others will respect you .

Success factors are self-confidence and high self-esteem

4. Inflated self-esteem and self-confidence 👍 are the most important success factors

Self love- this is not a flaw, not arrogance, and so on. It is worth distinguishing between narcissism and a healthy respect for one's personality.

The most important thing - Reconcile your opinion with reality. If you are really good at carving wood, love yourself for it, be proud of it, even brag about it.

If you have just started doing this - appreciate yourself for striving for something new, desire to do something. In each action, one can find positive parties and negative . Love yourself for the first and adequately treat the second.

Only in this case, the people who surround you will see your positive aspects, start you value And respect. If everything is the other way around, and you look for more and more flaws in your work, others will do the same. And believe me, they will find them.

The more you will confident the more people will reach out to you. And those who have a level of self-esteem higher than yours, and those who have it lower. They will want to communicate closer, start cooperation, just talk with an interesting, confident person who is not afraid and does not hesitate to tell what he sees fit or to do what he thinks is right.

The strength of the spirit attracts everyone- from small to large, which will make you not only popular, but also more satisfied with your life.

Signs of good, high self-esteem:

• the physical body is not a burdensome ugly shell, but a given from nature;
• self-confidence, their actions and words;
• mistakes are not obstacles on the way, but a way to learn more;
• criticism is useful information that does not affect self-esteem;
• compliments are pleasant and do not cause strong emotions;
• speak calmly with all people, do not feel awkward when communicating with strangers;
• each opinion expressed is valuable, but does not fundamentally affect the opinion of the person himself;
• take care of the condition of the body;
• worry about their emotional balance, correct it if necessary;
• constantly harmonious development, without jumps and unrealistic tasks;
• they finish what they started, achieve success in this and are not afraid of it.

Believe in yourself, respect your own self- this is the basis for achieving any goal, including the fundamental one - to be happy. This will help you grow above yourself today, forget about those troubles and disgusting feelings that you experienced at the bottom of your own self-esteem.

In the territory of the former Soviet Union, many members of the older generation have big problems with self-esteem. At that time, it was extremely unpopular, since the general good was the leading one, and not the happiness of everyone. Next generation 90s also did not receive enough adequate positive information about themselves from the world due to the difficult situation in the country, lack of money, dangerous criminal situation.

At this time, it's time to forget about it and think about own well-being. In order to change your self-esteem, you need to work on your personality.

This will be the very qualitative change in life that you have dreamed of so much.

The main reasons for low self-esteem

5. Low self-esteem - 5 main causes of self-doubt 📑

The mouse race, in which a person participates from birth, forces him to form a certain opinion about himself. As a result, by the beginning of a conscious life, we often get unhappy And sad a young man who perfectly understands that ahead of him and his complexes there is a lot of trouble and the need to work. Why is it so?

Reason #1. Family

If you ask yourself where a person gets their opinion of themselves, the first correct answer is family. We receive most of our psychological attitudes at a very young age. This is due to the fact that during physiological development, emotional formation also occurs.

In other words, while we are growing up, our parents and environment are laying down the brick-by-brick foundation of our future personality.

It is logical to assume that the opinion created in childhood about ourselves will remain with us for many years, and maybe for life. It is good if parents understand this and are responsible for what they say to the child and how they do it. However, this does not always happen.

For example, according to parents, a child from kindergarten constantly makes mistakes. The progress of parental humiliation looks like this:

• Built a beautiful house from the designer? And who will clean it up?
• Did you beat the guys from the neighboring yard in the game of snowballs? Yes, you’re all wet, you’ll get sick, but we don’t have any money anyway!
• Got an 5 in Physical Education? Where's the math, stupid?
• What do you mean you like this girl? Her father is a gardener, and this is not prestigious!

So, day after day, parents impose on the child that he cannot do anything right. The kid stops believing that he is able to do something with his hands, have fun, choose a partner, company, and so on.

Against this background, self-love cannot arise in any way, who can respect and appreciate such an awkward creature? Then, about twenty years later, parents are surprised to discover that their child is a loser, has not achieved anything in life, is lonely and sad and blames him for this ... himself, because they put so much effort into him, and he, ungrateful... and all in the same vein.

What should a person do in this situation? Of course, work on yourself, increase self-esteem and strive for happiness. Everything is possible, the main thing is to want.

Parents should remember that criticism is a dangerous tool of education that can lead to painful consequences. It is worth knowing that you are raising a separate person who must be confident in his decisions and actions, have his own opinion, be able to make decisions, and not limply follow you as an extension of your body and mind.

The best situation for a baby is good And affectionate mother who always calm And happy. The father, on the other hand, must be demanding, have serious authority and, most importantly, treat the child fairly at any age.

It is also worth paying attention to every baby in the family, even if there are a lot of them. So-called " little brother syndrome", when the younger is reproached for the success of the elder - worse What can you think of to build a healthy self-esteem.

Because family for a child- the center of the universe, you should carefully consider his ego. If you feel that your self-esteem is falling, raise it.

It doesn't take much to do this - just give him fair praise a few times a day and he'll go to bed happier. Encourage him to do what he does best and gently point out flaws rather than criticize. So the self-esteem of the child will inevitably rise and ensure his stability in life and a happy future.

Reason number 2. Failure at an early age

From early childhood on our way there are failures. This is inevitable for every person, because we live in a far from ideal world. An adult with a stable psyche is usually quite calm about failures, can overcome them and extract useful information from them, but this is not always the case with children.

At a very early age, even if you don’t remember the failure, it is possible that it is in the depths of your subconscious and whispers all the time: “ do nothing, it won't work anyway, I'm always behind you". This must be fought.

Over time, if you work on your personality, these memories will come up, they will be very painful and unpleasant, but having analyzed them in detail and realizing that your mistake is completely insignificant and should not subsequently affect you in any way, you will get rid of a significant burden on your heart.

Starting from the time you remember well all your troubles, it is much easier to work with this. Rummaging through the mind, you are sure to find a couple dozens moments that have haunted you since high school. Refusal of a roommate, teacher's bad expression, father's rude comment, failure in competition, double in physics are all examples of a heavy load that lowers your self-esteem and takes away positive energy for eternal torment over long-experienced problems.

All this from youth forms the consciousness of a loser who simply cannot achieve something in life, and this is a lie - after all, everyone is capable of it.

Reason number 3. Life passivity

The formation of personality begins in childhood and in the early stages does not require any effort from us. However, the older we get, the more this situation changes.

TO 15 years old our personality will not move forward an inch if we do not try for it. That is, over time, more and more willpower will be required from each person in order to at least remain at the original level, for development it will be necessary to do more and more.

If from childhood a child is depressed, not used to working on himself and developing, in adulthood he will relate to the so-called gray mass.

This substance in society is characterized by the fact that its unit:

• does not want to develop;
• constantly putting off important things for later (procrastinates). About that, read in one of our articles;
• does not dream of more;
• does not take personal responsibility for himself or his family;
• accustomed to poverty/small prosperity;
• does not take care of himself, his appearance;
• believes that everything new is terrible and superfluous in his life;
• does not know how to be satisfied or dissatisfied - emotions are absolutely inert.

There is a famous physicist saying that a person without willpower is just a vertical puddle. The gray mass consists of such individuals. This is not an example of poor self-esteem, but of its complete absence.

No aspirations, no wishes, eternal lack of money And lack of any bright impressions that can dispel the gray reality.

This is a rather sad sight that destroys thousands of lives, including those children who grow up in such families. Raise self-esteem in such a case it is vital for women and men.

If this is not done, a happy, bright, full of emotions life will pass by, leaving fragments of poverty and an eternally depressive mood.

Reason number 4. Environment

We are all surrounded by a large number of people. Some of them are successful, others not so much, and others do not want to be so. If you decide to take everything from life, to make yourself a happy, self-confident person, you should acquire the appropriate environment.

Signs of an unhealthy society:

• constant groundless philosophizing, verbiage;
• criticism of everything in the world, from the government to neighbors, especially groundless or meaningless;
• inertia and lack of initiative, for example, if you cannot persuade your friends to go to a concert or a movie;
• constant gossip, condemnation of others behind their backs;
• planning to get rich quick without any action or effort;
• a large amount of alcohol, cigarettes and other bad habits.

The lack of desire to develop, work and generally try in life is quite contagious. In such a company, you feel no worse than anyone, but it relaxes, requires a lot of time and emotions, pulls you to the bottom. This energy vampirism which is difficult, even impossible, to fight. If you can, leave such a company or environment completely, if not, just minimize communication.

The best society for those who strive to develop is people who have already achieved. Don't know how to meet them? Try going to places you haven't been before. Usually this libraries, book the shops, theaters, thematic establishments, seminars, trainings etc.

Reason number 5. Appearance problems

A strong factor, especially in adolescence, is appearance. If she has some defects, then even with the right approach of relatives to education, low self-esteem can be formed on the basis of the opinions of peers, teachers, and so on.

The most common example in this case is excess weight. Offensive nicknames, the lack of attention of girls / boys, the contemptuous attitude of some adults - all this naturally affects the personality of the child.

If this manifested itself in adulthood, then the person will demonstrate his resentment not so clearly, but the pain will not decrease from this.

In order to change this, you can try to fix the defect. For example, if this is a diet, then the whole family should sit on it so that the child does not feel disadvantaged. If change is not possible, the child needs to be helped to come to terms with this situation and develop in a different direction.

There are many charismatic and attractive fat men in the world and thin people who are absolutely not interesting to anyone.

7 Ways to Raise Your Self-Esteem and Become Self-Confident

6. How to increase self-esteem and confidence - 7 ways 📚

Having figured out what self-esteem is, why it is needed and what affects it on its formation, you can proceed to how to work with it, namely how to raise it.

It’s not enough just to realize that you don’t evaluate yourself correctly, you also need to be able to change the situation. Below are some interesting and effective ways to increase self-esteem and confidence.

Method number 1. Environment

The society you move in defines who you are. It is important for everyone not to be the last. In a company where no one has achieved anything, you feel comfortable because everyone is just like you.

Now imagine that you find yourself in a social circle where one bought a new car yesterday, the second opened a new branch of his store, the third recently graduated from university. At the same time, you hardly graduated from technical school, and can't get a job anywhere.

What will your feelings be? Certainly unpleasant. In addition, you will receive a powerful, powerful impetus to development, a desire to do something significant for your life and career. At first you will feel awkward, but over time you will realize that you are changing for the better with this company.

In addition, you will get rid of the eternally depressing social circle that pulls you to the bottom and ridicules all your timid undertakings.

A strong and successful person will never, laughs at those who are just trying their hand. On the contrary, he will help and prompt, even support, if necessary.

Look for the right social circle that will make you work on yourself.

Method number 2. Literature, trainings, films

Having dealt with the environment, proceed to decisive steps, namely, take up reading books on working on yourself, increasing self-esteem. This list will help you:

• Brian Tracy "Self-Esteem";
• Sharon Wegshida-Kroes “How much are you worth? How to learn to love and respect yourself”;
• "The Charm of the Feminine" by Helen Andelin;
• Louise Hay Heal Your Life.

Next stage - attending seminars and practices . People who want to change and coaches who are able to give it to them gather here. Thus, you change the environment and get the desired information. This is an effective way that allows you to kill two birds with one stone.

Method number 3. The comfort zone is actually the enemy

No matter how strange it may sound, but for now you comfortable And calmly in the world in which you exist is very bad for your personality. The established rules of life will make you ossify And freeze at one place. Only by doing something new can you develop.

In fact, it only seems to you that you already have all the best. There, outside your invisible cage, lives and rages wonderful And amusing a world that is filled not with difficulties and troubles, but with incredible adventures, new stories and acquaintances.

As soon as you throw your fears into the furnace, it will open up to you, instill a sense of self-confidence and show many of the brightest events that you could not even think about.

What do you need to do to leave your "comfort zone"? Analyze where your time is going. How many hours a week do you watch TV, how much do you drink, how much do you play games, and so on. Reduce this time by three hours in seven days and devote them to something new. For what you've always wanted: sculpt from clay, sew a new dress, plant a flower, go to the circus / cinema / theater. The more active the better. Over time, a bright life will suck you in, and you will forget about the mediocre chatty box and other garbage items.

Method number 4. Down with self-criticism!

If you stop eating yourself alive superfluous self-criticism , you can immediately complete three extremely important tasks, which in other ways will take you a lot of time and effort.

Firstly, you will get a lot of free energy. All those forces that you spent on self-criticism and the search for reasons for it can be directed to actions that are more pleasant and useful. For example, reading exciting books with a relaxing plot or writing poetry, knitting, planting flowers, and so on.

Secondly, you will begin to perceive yourself as a holistic person who has his own personality. Yes, you do not look like Vasya, Einstein or Alain Delon. And it is not necessary! Be yourself, and do not participate in the eternal, someone else's competition in which someone has already taken first place.

Thirdly, you will begin to notice in yourself not only the negative, but also the positive aspects. Everyone has something good, something that he knows how to do. Discover it, isolate and educate, improve, nurture, without wasting time and effort. This is the best investment in yourself!

Whatever painful mistakes you encounter, don't let yourself grieve over them for more than an hour. After suffering a little, force yourself to be happy again, and take failure as an experience.

Method number 5. Physical exercise

So unloved by many, physical activity greatly affects our emotional state. To boost self-esteem, buying a gym membership can do more than a lot of training.

This happens because:

• during sports, a wonderful hormone dopamine is released in a person, which excites our brain and gives a pleasant encouragement, colloquially it is also called the hormone of joy;
• you bring your body, and hence your appearance, into perfect order, so that over time you can be proud of it and respect yourself for the work done;
• even the classes themselves are important without results, because in the process of performing each exercise you overcome laziness, complexes and other troubles;
• improving well-being gives and develops confidence in yourself and your actions, in every step - it is easier for you to move and feel, it is easier to persuade yourself to start doing something.

This is a great way to improve the quality of life for people with a sedentary lifestyle and the same work. All day, after spending in a stuffy office, it is worth unwinding, but not going to drink beer in a bar. It's more likely to have a detrimental effect on you, and sport on the contrary, it will update and make it more cheerful.

A heavy-lifting person, with a heavy and unattractive body, cannot feel good in the company of slender and healthy people. This is fertile ground for the development of complexes, lowering self-esteem and other troubles.

Among other things, sports will help to start New acquaintances with purposeful people who can teach And show by your own example, that any changes are possible, which also has a beneficial effect on your psyche.

Method number 6. Subconscious programming

You can also influence your consciousness with the help of another, no less interesting and effective tool - programming. In psychology, this is called affirmations. Consider your computer. You give it a command, it processes it and takes the requested action. It's the same with our subconscious, only a little more complicated. You can't just say, "make me happy and confident."

The code, the command is memorized or recorded on the recorder. It should sound like a solid, realized fact. For example, "I am confident", " girls like me», « I can have what I want without much effort» and all in the same spirit. There should not be many such phrases, they should be repeated in the playlist or just to yourself for about two minutes.

These affirmations and they will be the very installation in the subconscious, the command for the computer, which will convince your subconscious of what you need. Do you want to be confident- please convince the hidden parts of your brain of this and it will independently remake the entire conscious part so that you become completely independent and can easily make decisions.

There is one rule here - you need to do this regularly, even after you feel the changes. Continue until you are surprised to find that the affirmations you are listening to are already a fact.

Remember that these words should have an extremely positive effect on your personality, not form ambiguities and not be in doubt. What you convince yourself of should have only benefits, without negative effects, because it will not be easy to “persuade” the subconscious mind back.

Method number 7. Remember your victories

Never neglect what has already been done. This is important for your consciousness, and for the subconscious and for a good mood. There is always something to praise yourself for, and if this is not enough, you will begin to subconsciously strive to do something good for the sake of it. Even if you praise yourself.

To operate this mechanism, start a notebook of victories. In it you need to write down everything that you consider a good deed, a useful action, and so on. Any little things or minor victories - all this is very important for your self-esteem, a sense of being needed in the world.

It might look like this, for example:

• had breakfast on time;
• took the linen from the laundry;
• bought some roses for his beloved wife;
• pleased his daughter with a game of tag;
• earned an award for a well-written report;
• went to the gym three times a week;
• lost 300 grams.

As you can see, achievements can be anything as long as they brought joy to someone or moral satisfaction to you. In a few months, you can collect an impressive collection that will warm your soul on cold evenings.

Write it down in your personal notebook and in difficult times when you cannot find strength in yourself do some difficult task or go up to an extracurricular meeting at work, reread a few pages of the diary.

Your mood is guaranteed to rise, you will remember how many positive emotions your efforts brought to you and your loved ones, and this is a powerful impetus to defeat all the troubles in the world.

The use of these ways to increase self-esteem requires regularity And mindfulness. Carefully monitor your state and thoughts, try to highlight the most successful of them, watch how you change.

This will help you get to know yourself better, learn to communicate with your inner self, and control your life.

Coaching to develop and increase self-confidence - by overcoming public opinion

7. Self-confidence training - overcoming the opinions of society 📝

The society that surrounds us, as we have already understood, seriously affects our self-esteem. If you attach too much importance to it, then it is quite capable of destroying the personality.

Of course, criticism is important. Our loved ones point out our mistakes to us, show us the moments in which, in their opinion, we did wrong and this is good. It is called healthy relationships .

However, let it completely define your personality poorly. Each person must independently decide what is good in his life and what is not, and how in the end he will act in a given situation.

Don't worry about what others will say about you first. First, decide what you think about it, and try to perceive the rest of the information as a background, secondarily.

Try to make sure that the opinion of society depends on yours, and not vice versa. There are several interesting exercises for this.

A little circus. This is just a physical exercise that will require serious psychological strength from you. Look in the closet for something ridiculous - an old long tie, funny pants, anything that seems funny to you. Now put it on and boldly head out into the street. Go shopping, go to the movies and so on. It's not worth doing this at work.- may be misunderstood, otherwise - complete expanse. However, do not overdo it, first take less provocative things and eventually put on something more fun so as not to immediately injure your psyche.

This exercise works like this. Your subconscious retains a lot of complexes that are associated with its appearance. The more you go out of your comfort zone, that is, dress inappropriately, the more your subconscious mind will independently destroy established complexes and make your consciousness, and therefore life, freer.

More public. This exercise is simple. The more you speak in public, the more honed this skill will become. Speaking in front of a large number of people requires composure, high-quality preparation, and an effort of will.

This will help you learn to concentrate and complete the task quickly, while being responsible for the result. In addition, it will elevate you in the eyes of your superiors, and will recommend you well among a large audience.

Do these two exercises and be firm in your opinion.

8. How to find yourself and learn how to manage your self-esteem 📋

Much has been said about self-esteem. It may be difficult for you to immediately perceive and implement the entire situation.

For this there is 5 golden rules to print out and hang on the fridge. Constantly reminding and reading them will do the job for you. On a subconscious level, your brain will perceive them as instructions for action and will facilitate the period of transformation into a successful person.

• No need to compare yourself and others!
• No need to beat yourself up for mistakes!
• Surround yourself with positivity!
• Learn to love what you do!
• Prefer action over passivity!

Everyone unique And worthy happiness. It is imperative to unleash your unlimited potential in order to get everything out of life.

This requires constant work on yourself and a mandatory increase in self-esteem. But the results will not be long in coming, which will benefit both you and your environment.

9. Self-esteem test - determine the level of attitude towards yourself today 📄

The first practical task on the way to increase self-esteem is to determine its level. To do this, there is a very simple self-esteem test of a dozen questions.

It is very easy to pass it - read each item and answer " Yes" or " No" . Every time you answer " Yes"Remember.

1. Do you sharply criticize yourself when you make a mistake?
2. Gossip is one of your favorite activities?
3. You do not have clear guidelines?
4. Are you not physically active?
5. Do you often worry about the little things?
6. In an unfamiliar society, do you prefer not to be noticed?
7. Does criticism make you feel stressed?
8. Envy and criticism of others often happens?
9. The opposite sex remains a mystery, scares you?
10. Can an inadvertently thrown word offend you?

Now you need to remember how many "Yes" you said. If less three Your self-esteem is at a normal level. If more three- you need work on it.

10. Conclusion + related video

With a sincere desire to change and change your life, you can achieve a lot. Raising, normalizing self-esteem, this is one of the first, fairly simple steps, which ultimately allows you to achieve success, happiness And money.

Do not spare your strength, do not take care of yourself until better times. Develop now, get invaluable experience and build your future on a new level!